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Action Plan For Dealing With An Abusive Boyfriend

An abusive boyfriend is not only someone who inflicts physical abuse. Abusive behavior also includes emotional abuse and sexual abuse. But oftentimes when the subtle tactics of control fail, an abusive boyfriend will employ pressure, threats, and violence. He’ll do anything to create fear in the woman.

In this article I’m going to cover an action plan which you can employ if you find yourself in a relationship with an abusive boyfriend:

  1. Know what triggers the abuse: Find out where the act comes from and figure out the reasons behind his action. An abusive boyfriend is often said to be a product of a troubled or dysfunctional family. They grew up in impulsive and abusive environment and this became a significant factor for their abusive behavior.

    An abusive boyfriend uses male privileges to control a woman and believes in the stereotypical male and female roles. Since they’re the man, it means they should be in control and never to be questioned. Once you understand the reasons behind your boyfriends behavior, you’ll be better able to work towards possibly finding a solution.

  2. Always be on the lookout for physical abuse: Make sure to be alert and quick to avoid being hit by your abusive boyfriend. If he often hits you, have an escape plan ready such as running quickly out of the house or to another room where you can lock it and escape through a window.

  3. Make your support system aware of the situation: For your own good, inform your family and friends about what is really going on in your relationship. Don’t hide it just so your boyfriend still looks good in their eyes. They can help boost your self esteem and give you the support you need. Most of all, they can give you an honest opinion to make you see if the relationship is worth keeping or not.

  4. Seek help: There are many organizations available to help women in abusive relationships. And since abuse involves emotional and psychological abuse, it is also good to seek therapy. However, be reminded that a relationship involves two people so it’s best to convince your boyfriend to seek therapy too. But if he is not willing to get help, then the best thing to do is the next step.

And Remember…

All these points are only secondly to the best way to deal with an abusive boyfriend – leaving him! When you’ve explored all possible avenues to fixing the situation and you know you’re never going to be able to change him – leave. Not even the kids (if you have them), money, or the house, should keep you holding on to an abusive relationship.

It may be a very painful thing to do, but it is ultimately better for the both of you. Find an opportunity to safely get out of the house and go to a secure place. Statistics show that about 75% of women who were killed by their abusive partners were murdered after they left them. You can always find a safe place to stay and be with people who can provide you with security so you can live peacefully.

Those who stay with their abusive boyfriends will only find themselves trapped in an unhealthy relationship because they do not consider the reality that there is in another way of living.

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