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How To Handle A Controlling Relationship Using Psycho-Analysis

Power struggles are common among many relationships where a partner tries to be more dominant than the other within the relationship. However sometimes this behavior is taken to excess and one partner tries to control the other to the point where it is unreasonable and begins to affect the other persons whole way of life. This is where a relationship changes from being relatively normal to being a controlling one.

In this article, I’m going to show how you can use psycho-analysis to analyze a controlling partner so that you can find out what is causing the problem and in this way work towards finding a solution.

3 Point Plan 

  1. Find the reason why he or she is exerting control: It can be often traced to a dysfunctional family or growing up under a controlling parent. Your partner may be unconsciously modelling his or her parent’s behavior. Or it can be traced to a previous relationship that ended because of some form of deceit or lack of trust. Controlling partners may not realize that they are being controlling and harming the relationship.

  2. Communicate the issue with your partner: After identifying the reason for your partner’s controlling behavior, the thing you need to do next is to make him or her aware of it. Be firm in telling your partner that his form of control is not acceptable for you and is not healthy for your relationship. Talking about this early in the relationship is the best approach. Unless you communicate the issue with your partner, he or she won’t realize that his or her behavior will not be tolerated.

    In many cases, controlling partners are in denial that they are being controlling. Maybe because his or her previous partners just accepted such form of behavior and never talked about it. Sometimes a controlling partner may also become defensive and angry when talking about the problem, which is another form of controlling behavior. He or she wants the conversation to end and not be discussed at all.

  3. Step out of the relationship: If your partner refuses to listen and is not willing to accept that there is a problem, there may be no other option but to get out of the situation until he or she is willing to discuss it and take the necessary actions to overcome the controlling behavior. If they aren’t willing to accept your point of view or face up to their actions at all, you really need to consider leaving the relationship entirely for your own best interests.

Final Thought on Controlling Relationships

Always keep in mind that a healthy relationship is one which is built on mutual trust and respect. When you find yourself having a partner who tries to control everything you do, it’s a red flag which should signal to you to rethink the relationship over.

Not doing anything about it and just tolerating it will only create a continuous cycle. Take note that if there are children involved, they will be more likely to develop the same behavior when they themselves get into a relationship.

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