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Is my relationship worth saving?

Is your relationship on the brink?
Have you had recurring fights with your partner?
And you don't know if your relationship is now a lost cause or not?

The only way to know the answer to these question is to find out if it actually CAN be saved. This is what i'm going to go through with you in this article. If a relationship CAN'T be saved ...then there is pretty much nothing you can do. Sooner or later the end will come to it.

Here, i've outlined 6 key ways to analyse your current relationship with your partner. These are by no means an exclusive list of checks that determine if your relationship can be saved ...but they will give you a general sense of your current standing and how you should proceed. In addition to this list, I recommend you see a relationship counselor in person to get specific analysis of your relationship problems.

6 Key Steps You Should Now Take

Examine the following points:

  1. Decide if you really are committed to making things work: It is important for you to know if the relationship is worth saving. Are you having problems because there’s something your partner or you yourself have failed to do? Is either of you being abused physically or verbally? If so, you are definitely in a wrong relationship and it’s about time that you find someone else who deserves your love. But if you think that your problems are solvable, try talking things through and settle your differences.

  2. Identify the problem: Couples expect a lot from each other. However, you should be aware that there is no perfect relationship. Your partner isn’t perfect and neither are you - you both have your shortcomings. In order for you to know where the problems are coming from, both of you should list the positive and negative aspects of each other. Give yourselves compliments and thank your partner for all the good things he/she has done for you. As for the negative attitudes, recognize them and try to change them for the sake of the relationship.

  3. Keep your communication lines open: If you feel that something is wrong, don’t hesitate to say it to your partner. It’s better to tell it to him/her outright than to keep your emotions bottled up until the day you erupt like a volcano. Problems will always be more difficult to deal with if you keep things to yourself. So always be honest about your feelings with each other. No secrets and lies (even white lies) with each other.

  4. Be all ears with your partner: This is the key to better understanding each other. If your partner is trying to tell you something, do not interrupt him/her and try to defend yourself. Wait for him/her to finish before you speak and respect what he/she has to say. After all, he/she wouldn’t tell you why they’re thinking or feeling that way if he/she isn’t hurt or bothered about the issues at hand.

  5. Make the move: If you have already identified the problem, think of ways you can remedy it and then immediately take action. Say sorry if you've done wrong. Conversely, it’s okay to say sorry even if it’s not your fault and always be ready to forgive.

You don’t actually have to talk about the problem all the time, especially if it is very minor. But you need to make a point of it to initiate a fix to something that you feel is wrong. 

If you feel that what you’re going through right now is very difficult and both of you can’t solve things on your own, don’t be afraid to seek help by having counselling.

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