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Should I stay in my relationship? (2 Questions To Ask Yourself)

Should I stay in my relationship?
Or leave?

A troubled relationship is always possible when you bring two unique individuals together. The reality is that both people will be intrinsically different in their:

  • Likes and dislikes
  • Different upbringings
  • And different values and beliefs

And when you put them together they may complement each other, or clash ...and when the latter happens, relationship problems are enivitable. 

So, in such a situation - how do you know if you should stay in the relationship or not?

Right now, you have two options in front of you. And depending on how you answer the two of these options, you should either try to save your relationship or leave it altogether.

Options In Dealing With A Troubled Relationship

Considering the problems you have in your realtionship, you have two options facing you right now. They are:

  1. Pretend Nothing Is Wrong: This option is preferred by many. Though the signs are clear, people would like to stay num on the idea that the relationship is in trouble because they fear the following:

    - fear of being alone

    - fear of confrontations

    - fear of failure in relationship

    - fear of starting a new relationship

    - fear of rejection

    What is not realized in this option is that by trying to pretend that nothing is wrong, the trouble will in time is only likely to increase.

  2. Fix The Trouble: The second option involves finding out what is the root cause of the strain in your relationship and fixing it. This will help a lot if you have a partner that is willing as much as you are to save the relationship. This will take a lot of commitment on your part and in your partner as well. But if you both come out of your trouble and weather it, then you will know that your relationship has grown stronger. However if your partner has no desire to fix the situation, this option becomes more difficult and you may want to consider option number three.

So, how do you know which option is best for you? 

Well, there really isn't an option here.

While alot of people take option 1 above, this isn't really an option at all. All it does is kick the problem down the road for another day. This is not a constructive way to handle things. So while people take this option, i've given it here to point out just how wrong a path this is to take. 

So, you only really have option 2. If you are not willing (or able) to have the root cause of your problems examined and dealt with ....then you probably should leave the relationship. Of course why you can't (or don't want to) deal with any problem (or problems) you have with your partner is not something that can be dealt with in this article, if this is something you can't do ...then there really isn't much hope for the relationship.

The sole question comes down to the fact - can you (and are you willing to) have your problems examined in such a way as to get to the root of them? The answer will let you know if you should leave the relationship ...or try to fix it. 

Relationship Issues And Love

In my book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology" I go through the things you should do in relationships to ensure that your partner becomes emotionally tied to you and falls in love.

Relationship issues don’t mean that the relationship is doomed. Almost all relationship will encounter difficulties but its how you both deal with them that separates the healthy relationships from the unhealthy ones.

Note that I said BOTH. It’s important to understand that relationship issues need both people working to fix them. If just one person is working, then in essence they are only wallpapering over the issues and setting themselves up for an unhealthy relationship.

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