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How do I get a girl to like me ...i'm ugly?

How do I get a girl to like me?
I don't have the looks other men have!

In this article, I’m going to show why having good-looks have next to NO impact on your chances of picking up a woman. Understanding this is probably one of the best flirting tips for men out there because men have a tendency to get hooked up on the idea of looks.

In my book “THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology” I detail numerous psychological techniques on how to make a person fall for you regardless of your looks. Here I’d like to talk about another technique with no relation to good-looks – that of the concept of the “alpha male

I’m sure you’ve seen those wildlife documentaries where you have one alpha male that gets to have all the females in the pack to himself …while the other males have to stay on the outskirts hoping that the alpha male will disappear. Most men will find themselves naturally admiring this alpha male animal.

But haven’t you noticed something odd about the alpha male?

The strange thing is that the alpha male is not necessarily the best looking male or even the biggest – he’s simply the one that the females admire and have sex with.

Why do the females admire him so much and want to have sex with him and not the others? It’s simple – he’s the alpha male. In other words it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you project the image of being the alpha male – people will think of you as the alpha male. And the more that people look to you as the alpha male, the more you’ll feel like one and exude this image.

In psychology circles, this is known as the echo effect. When flirting with women, it’s not your looks that are important but rather the way you feel about yourself and the image you portray. When you give the impression of an alpha male, women will pick up on this and echo it back to and treat you like the alpha male. So if you portray the image, that you’re a strong confident male whose plenty good for her, you’ll convince her that you are.

However if you approach a woman with the mentality that you’re not good-looking enough for her – you’ll convince her of that too.

Therefore, you need to remember that…

When thinking "how do i get a girl to like me?", when it comes to flirting with women it’s your attitude you should be worrying about ...and not your looks. Thankfully attitude is easier to work on than looks.

The thing is though that you can’t fake it. You genuinely have to believe you’re the alpha male in order to be perceived as one. When you transform yourself – you transform your reality. When you doubt yourself – others will too.

Therefore you need to work on seeing yourself in a better light. When you remember that it’s not looks but the right attitude that attracts women, your confidence will start to build because you know.

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