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I’m not good enough for the guy I like

I'm not good enough!
I'll never be able to get him!

I’m sure you’re familiar with the well-known concept that guys tend to put more weight on looks (than women do) when it comes to choosing a partner.

While this is true to a degree, the reality is that this is a vastly over-simplified view. There is far more going on in a guys psyche when choosing a woman than simply how good she looks.

There are a number of psychological mechanisms at play.

And if you know the psychological mechanisms at play in a guys psyche when he is evaluating a woman, you can take advantage of this knowledge and make him fall in love with you …even if you consider yourself “not good-looking enough” for him.

In effect, you can bypass this short-coming on your part …and still make him fall in love with you.

How is this done?

Psychologists have discovered that the human mind does not fall in love with someone because of one single thing …but instead falls in love with a person due to the combined effect of a number of factors. All of these factors add up to give what is called a “total stock”.

One of these factors is looks.

Men put more weight on this factor than women do ...but what you need to understand is that this is only ONE factor.

So what are the other factors you might ask?

While I could go through a number of generic factors that cause guys in general to fall in love, the reality is that what will make a guy fall in love (and STAY in love) with you …is by you matching the exact factors this particular guy is looking for.

How do I do this?

In my book “THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology” …I reveal how to uncover the exact set of factors the particular guy you like is subconsciously looking for.

This subconscious list of factors he is looking for is called his “Lovemap”. And when you know the components of his Lovemap, you effectively have the blueprint to making that guy fall in love with you.

Psychologists have known about the existence of Lovemaps since the 1980’s but THE LOVEMAP CODE book is the first book to be released on the topic that allows you to actually uncover the specific Lovemap components of a person AND match them …making the person fall in love with you more easily than would otherwise be the case.

The Psychology Of Lovemaps

The more elements on a persons Lovemap that you match, the higher your “total stock” will be in that persons mind. It’s important to understand total stock in terms of matching a persons Lovemap …rather than a generic total stock that you are trying to get as high as possible in.


Because a high generic total stock, in and of itself, will really only make you more attractive to the other person. While this is good, it won't necessarily make the person fall in love with you

This is the vital mistake most people make. 

Matching a persons Lovemap is what will make that person think of you as “The One”. Their subconscious will recognize that you are matching them on fundamentally deep levels that they are specifically looking for. 

When someone feels that someone is matching them at this deep level, this is what makes them see you as “The One”. They begin to feel as though the two of you were destined to be together and that it was fate that bought you together. And when someone begins thinking like this …love is automatically triggered.