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3 Psychological Signs He's NOT The One

How do you know he is not the one?
How to know he's not the one?
Is he the one to marry?

Unhealthy relationships are often characterized by one person being in the relationship not because they love their partner ...but because they have personal issues and unmet needs that they feel the relationship can satisfy.

This is NOT a healthy way to have any relationship.

If the particular guy you have your mind on is like this, you may be setting yourself up for trouble. So, in this article i'm going to cover 3 tell-tale psychological signs that are clues your guy may have psychological issues ...and is not "The One". 

How To Know He's Not The One

Things to watch out for in a potential partner include:

  1. Fear Of Being Alone: Some people are so afraid of this that they can only feel safe if they are in some sort of a relationship. Notice I said "some sort of a relationship". If your boyfriend is going out with you just for the "sake of having someone" then you need to consider if this is the type of relationship you want. A good way to help find out if he has a fear of being alone is to ask him about his relationship history. Most people will have a history where they were in a relationship for a while and then single for a while. If your guy always seems to have gotton into a relationship straight after one broke up, it might indicate that he jumps quickly into relationships in order to avoid feeling alone.
  2. Externally Dependent: Externally dependent people fall regularly in love. They depend on outside things to make them happy such as material objects but also relationships. They'll always be looking to see what advantages a partner can bring them while being with them. This is the foundation of many unhealthy relationships. Does your guy have lots of physical material things which he just "needs to have" in order to feel happy? This may be a sign that he depends too much on outside things to be happy. A healthy-minded person doesn't need outside things to be happy but are naturally happy within themselves.
  3. High Visual-Emotional Complex: These people place high value to things they perceive as good-looking and low value to things that are bad-looking. We all do this to a degree but some do it far more than others to the point they will pick a partner based solely on their looks. Again such a basis for a relationship is fraught with danger. Inevitably, they will get used to the good-looks their partner has (as they are subjected to them everyday) and will no longer feel attracted to them for this reason. So, a key reason they became attracted to their partner now becomes void. If that partner then met someone that was even better looking then their current girlfriend, they would feel a high level of attraction to that new person.

Going One Step Deeper...

To better understand if any of the above areas apply to the guy you have your mind on, you need to study his personality type in more detail. In my book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology" I show how to analyse the personality type of the guy you have your mind on.

His personality type will fall into 1 of 4 categories. Each of these categories exhibit different personality characteristics and understanding these is critical to finding out if the particular guy you like is "The One" for you ...or has personality issues you should be avoiding. 

Not only will this allow you to find out if you should be pursuing this particular guy ...but it will show you how to take advantage of the characteristics of his personality (if he is suitable for you) in order to subconsciously program his mind into falling in love with you.