Can You Get My Girlfriend Back?
“Can you help me get my girlfriend back?” – is a common request I get. The thing about breakups is that people get depressed not just because they miss their ex but because they feel hopeless in the situation.
Society has brought us up to believe that love is dependent on fate and destiny. If someone doesn’t love us – we’re led to believe that there’s nothing we can do about it. But this is an illogical argument.
Love, just like any other emotion such as stress, anxiety, fear etc can be controlled when the correct methods are applied to it. In my book “How To Make Anyone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology” I show just how easy it is to control love and induce it in your ex girlfriend for you.
So you CAN get my girlfriend back?
Getting your girlfriend back has as much to do with what you don’t do with what you do do. Therefore you’re first step to getting an ex back is understanding what you shouldn’t do.
There’s no point using the methods in my book to make her fall for you while at the same doing something else to wreck things. So what shouldn’t you be doing right now? The following are a good start:
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Don’t harass her: If there's one thing that your ex needs at the moment, it’s SPACE away from you. Yes, I know that you miss her a lot. But if you continuously bug her or call her, you'll just annoy her. Give her time away from you in order for the both of you to be able to think things rationally and avoid committing more mistakes. Besides, pleading with her to see you again is a sign of weakness. And no woman wants a man who is weak and desperate. So just hold your ground and resist any temptation of getting in touch with her. Make her wonder why she hasn't heard from you and she just might be the one to communicate with you first.
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Don’t shower her with gifts: If you do this it will appear as if you are trying to bribe your ex into getting back with you. More so, she wouldn't necessarily find you attractive again just by giving her something (no matter how expensive it is).A guy who floods a girl with material things shows a sign of insecurity. It's like you're trying to cover or make up for your mistakes by giving presents.
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Don’t be nosey: It's okay for her to keep you updated as to where she is, what she's doing or who she's with IF YOU WERE HER BOYFRIEND. Sad to say, your relationship has ended so she is no longer obliged to report to you for duty.
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Don’t be her best friend: This is never a good idea. Why? Because you would be helping her move on while keeping yourself hurt because you are still in love with her. And it would most likely become ingrained in her subconscious that you’d be better off as a friend rather than a boyfriend. Remember, you're trying to get her back as a girlfriend - not as a best friend.
Now that you know the things that you shouldn't do after a break up, use the time that you have contemplating about what happened with your relationship and see if there are things or attitudes that you should change. Also, take care of yourself and stay in shape. And when the time is right (and you and your ex are no longer emotional) you can finally communicate with her and move forward in trying to get her back.
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