Getting Over a Breakup in Less Than A Week
Getting over a breakup is one of the hardest things a person goes through in life. But what a lot of people aren't aware of is that if armed with the correct knowledge, getting over a breakup can be easily done.
In my past, when it would take me longer than a week to get over a breakup, it was because I adopted the exact same wrong practises you're doing right now. The wrong practises that everyone who tries to get over a breakup does but shouldn't do.
Through years of study of psychology and dealing with thousands of people getting over breakups I know what works and what fails. I discovered the fact that you can get over a breakup and someone you love in a matter of days and not the usual months or even years! it takes some people. This can be achieved by doing things correctly to get over the breakup.
First you must realise that even though there are loads of things preventing you from getting over a breakup, in reality it comes down to two key things. These stumbling blocks are:
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Having it in your mind that they were "the one"
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Having consistently a tiny bit of hope that somehow you both will get back together and everything will be all right.
Getting over a breakup by realising he was not "the one"
People are programmed by the things they come into contact with in they're daily lives. We all have been programmed since we were babies through:
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Our parents
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Our friends,
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TV etc.
about the type of qualities we would like to have in our future partner. This is called a persons "lovemap". It's the reason why we fall into love with some people and why we are effectively barred from falling in love with other people.
Most people aren't aware of the fact however that potential partners don’t meet all the specifications on a persons lovemap 100% but rather will only meet realistically at most a good three quarters of them. This is the basis of all strong relationships and it results in love.
Consequently there can be no such thing as the "one" because if a person loves another person who meets 75% of their lovemaps specifications, then by the law of statistics there are countless other potential people out there who can fufill this 75% too.
Hoping they'll come back prevents you getting over a breakup
In my book "How To Get Over Anyone In Less Than A Week Using Psychology" I discuss how having even a 1% hope in your mind that the relationship has a chance of being resurrected, will prevent you from getting over a breakup.
Why is it that when someone close dies, we can accept this easier than losing someone through a breakup? Simply, when a person dies - its final. They can never come back. But in a breakup, the dumped person will try and hold on the lingering 1% chance that they might get back with their ex.
This 1% possibility is what’s making you feel depressed. You daydream and visualize of how great it would be to get back together but then you realise that that’s just what it is - a daydream and so you feel depressed again. Most people following a breakup do this cycle over and over again in their minds.
Bury this hope. Stop visualizing being back together with your ex and thinking of the times you spent together. I can truly say that anytime i've had to get over a breakup in my life, I’ve done so in a matter of a few days. This isn't because i have a super strong mind or anything, but its because i adopt the practises i've shown you here.
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