Surprising Reasons Why You Might Love Someone
If you find you love someone, it’s always a healthy idea to understand better why you love him or her. If it's a healthy love and you genuinely love them for who they are, that’s a good thing. But it’s a good idea to examine other reasons for falling in love that are not so healthy. If you think you love someone because:
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It was "fate" and
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They are "the one"
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They are my “soul mate”
then you really need to examine these ideas first before outright accepting them. In reality there’s no special "one" for each of us. People fall for a person if that person satisfies their subconscious list of things they want in a future partner. If the other person fits even 3 quarters of this list, they will be a prime candidate for you to fall in love with them.
How can I be so sure of this? Well I’d ask you if you've ever had "the one" before? If you've had and you have another "one" now then you know there’s no magical connection between you and this new person. All that’s happened is that they've shown themselves to be a good match and potential partner for you and naturally love ensues.
What else to consider when you love someone
Reasons why you might love someone are not confined to things about that other person. The reasons have usually mostly got to do with you. This is a little known fact about falling in love. People are so fixated on the other person that it becomes all about that other person and thus they can overlook reasons on their own side for why they love that particular person.
Addiction to love is a classic example. Some people need to be in a relationship all the time. They need to love someone and be loved. This need can result in them "falling in love" with a person that’s not necessarily a good match for them but are someone who can provide them with a solution to their unmet need.
Now everyone to a degree wants to be in a relationship and feel love. However, if you find yourself actively looking for relationships and always feeling depressed when you are alone, you need to take note of this.
What causes a person to love someone based on love addiction
If you consistently feel bad when you're single or on you own, you are vulnerable to suffering from love addiction. Being in love and having a relationship is an easy answer to your problem but it doesn't cure the core issue at hand - your self confidence. Or rather lack thereof.
If you suffer self confidence issues you'll naturally feel relieved when someone says they love you or confirms that you’re worthy of a relationship. The problem is that this other person might not be a good match for you and might just be taking advantage of you because they see your vulnerability.
This is where love addiction becomes detrimental because the person might find themselves in an unhealthy relationship and not have the self confidence to leave it. They become reliant on that person even though they are not good for them.
What to do if you love someone based on love addiction
If you think you love someone as a result of your own personal problems such as:
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Lack of self confidence
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Emotional issues
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Loneliness etc
then you should address these issues first before entering a relationship.If you don't face your problems, you will be stuck with an even bigger heap of problems down the line.
However, once they are dealt with and you understand them, you'll have a much better chance of having a healthy long lasting relationship a well as being a stronger person.
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