How To Avoid The Tag Of “Rebound Girl”
We often hear about a rebound girl who gets in a relationship immediately after a break up. And people start to question why she did it and judge her. They're like: “What is up with her? Is she out of her mind?”
Rebound girls always have a bad reputation. They are believed to get into a sexual relationship where there are no strings attached. If they're not after the sex, they usually use the guy to move on and get over the break up without realizing that this move doesn't actually help them. A girl usually expects her new “beau” to make up for whatever her ex lacked during the time they were together. Or she would leave the guy once she starts to feel better.
Rebound Girl - How NOT To Be One
A rebound relationship has its pros and cons. It is good in a way that it distracts one from thinking about her ex and her previous relationship. However, it is always destructive for the other person who is left hurt and bruised. The rebounder is perceived as an antagonist not only to the guy but also to her self.
It is easy to lure a brokenhearted girl into having a rebound relationship. You don't have to be a victim of your past. You can steer clear from the route of becoming a rebound girl.
- Surround yourself with a lot of friends but never be alone with a single guy friend: Being alone in a time of grief makes you feel more down, while seeking consolation from a guy can lead to a rebound relationship and ruin your friendship. Try to enjoy the company of your friends and go out in groups. Or better yet, have a girls' night out. True friends will stay with you when you're at your best and worst. They'd be willing to comfort and stay with you when you need them the most.
- Focus on yourself: Now is the perfect time for you to reflect on your life. What could you do to improve yourself: your attitude, health and career? Was there something you wanted to do in the past that you weren't able to do because your ex stopped you from doing so? You are no longer bound by a commitment and you must put your newfound freedom to good use. Seize the opportunities that will knock on your door. Acquire a new skill, get a new hobby or enroll in a gym class. Stay busy and be productive.
- Accept and let go of the past: No matter how long ago the break up was, you won't be able to move on and start a healthy relationship with someone new unless you learn to accept that the relationship is over. Forgive your ex for causing you so much pain and forgive yourself for what you may have done in the past. Do not get stuck. Learn from your mistakes and be thankful for what happened because it made you a stronger person.
- Give yourself time to heal: Having a broken heart makes one a bad decision-maker. Jumping into a relationship immediately after a break up while the wounds haven't healed will make you have very high expectations on your new partner. In fact, you might even get paranoid that he will commit the same mistakes that your ex did. Thus, you wouldn't be able to give him your complete trust and love.
Rebound relationships are often short-lived and damaging for the person who's on the rebound and for the person being used. Do not try to use other people to mask your emotions. You must realize that there is a reason why things happen and that the pain you are feeling right now is temporary. When all your troubles are gone, you'll be a better person. Remember, all's well that ends well.
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