5 Questions To Ask To Uncover Someones Lovemap
The best way to uncover someone’s lovemap is to get them to start talking about it. Of course, no one is going to come out and start talking about their lovemap (as most people don’t even know what a lovemap is …or indeed if they did, they wouldn’t discuss it with you because that is a personal thing).
But you can get the person to talk about their lovemap in an indirect manner …all without them even realizing what they are doing. And this is one of the most powerful methods for quick relationship building with that person.
How do you do this?
The way we can do this is by slipping in questions into a conversation that are likely to illicit responses that will tell us more about that persons upbringing, past experiences, values and beliefs etc …which are areas of conversation that will allow you to see the components of their lovemap.
These five questions can help you to unlock someone’s lovemap without giving off the wrong impression.
What was the happiest time of your life?: This will directly lead to a conversation where they will essentially be talking about a thing (or things) from their past which they wish they had now. What you will be doing is in effect, uncovering an unmet need. And one of the best ways to match a persons lovemap, is to satisfy an unmet need in that persons life.
What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever done?: We are all conditioned to appear normal in society. This has been ingrained into us through evolution whereby if we didn’t fit in with society …we were alienated from it and our chances of survival out on our own would be difficult. Therefore, what a person does in their normal outwardly actions, often hide what’s really going on in their lovemap. So if you can find out about something they’ve done out of the ordinary, it can be a useful tool to finding out more about the true components of that persons lovemap. If they once gave all the money they had to a homeless mother and child, it might show that this person is willing to suffer for the good of others …and subconsciously she would feel a connection with others who would have a similar mindset. You’d be surprised what you can uncover from this question.
What did you enjoy most about your childhood?: This is a sure-fire question to get the ball rolling and get a woman to start talking about herself. She might not volunteer any particularly useful information at first, but she will definitely have something to talk about – and getting her to reveal info about herself should give you some good clues as to how to proceed to uncover her lovemap.
What do you like most about your job?: This question gets her to reveal what exactly turns her on and makes her excited. If she says she likes the fact that she gets to interact with members of the public and take care of them …then this will help you identify her quadrant in The Lovemap DISC …which is a key step to uncovering the specifications of a persons lovemap.
What am I like in your mind?: This is a good question because they’re likely to reveal what they like about you, what they don’t like about you …and ideally both. This allows you to know what your particular strengths are in this persons mind which you can then use to develop further to your advantage.
When you apply the information gathered from these questions, you will be building a direct connection in that person mind between things which are close to their heart …and you. But because you’ll be gathering the information indirectly …and then applying it indirectly, the person will begin feeling a connection with you but won’t know quiet why.
They’ll subconsciously wonder how are you matching them on such a deep level …and the natural conclusion the subconscious mind makes is to assume that they are falling in love with you and so the person will begin developing feelings of love for you.
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