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The 3 Relationship Stages You MUST Be Aware Of

Love changes through the different relationship stages. Some may have the impression that love is constant. However, as time goes by, the reality is that love brings about emotional and biological changes which affect how the couple is to each other.

It is said that before reaching the stage of deep emotional attachment, it has to start with the development of romantic feelings or what they call as “chemistry”. Then this develops into the second stage where there is already physical attraction.

Upon reaching the third stage, the relationship will have it’s final verdict – whether the couple decide for a lifetime commitment or decide to part ways. Some people expect a relationship to forever stay in the early stages where love completely envelopes them and their lives. The problem is that these early stages WILL pass. So it's important to be aware before hand and avoid difficulties down the line when you expected the love to stay the same, but find it's changing in ways you never expected.

Relationship Stages and How Love Changes

  1. Stage of Romantic Feelings and Chemistry (Romance Phase): Testosterone and estrogen are said to be the hormones that drive romantic love. The evolutionary purpose of this stage is mating.And this is where strong physical attraction is created which is needed for emotional attachment. Your brain is then soaked in endorphins which make you feel an intense pleasure. You feel exhilarated and high like what you feel when eating chocolates or after a workout.

  2. Stage of Physical Attraction (Lovesick Phase): In the second stage, you tend to lose your appetite, sleep less, and your lover is all you can think about. This time, dopamine, serotonin, and norepinephrine are the hormones racing through your brain and body. Power struggle comes in as you try to shape your lover into your ideal one. You become more practical and so you begin to argue with your partner about things. As infatuation wears off, a strong emotional attachment begins to develop.

  3. Stage of Emotional Attachment (Unconditional Acceptance Phase): In this stage of a relationship, there is already an awareness of both positive and negative traits of your partner. And you both already want to have a life together or get married. Commitment and partnership are very important components in this stage as this stage may already involve children. This is also the stage where confrontations are likely to occur, although it can happen in the second stage of a relationship. So, it’s either you stay committed or decide to end the relationship.

Relationship Stages – Tips to Make it Progress and Last

  • Express your disappointment, anger, or frustration in a healthy way: In all the relationship stages, be real and honest about your feelings and emotions. However, learn to express negative emotions in a constructive way so that you are not hurting others and at the same time you are not repressing what you truly feel. According to a psychological research, the happiest couples are those who remain true to themselves.

  • Focus on the things you can control: Examples of things you have control over are your behaviour, attitude, what you say, and your energy. When you want change in any relationship stage you’re in, focus on changing your attitude or actions first instead of trying to change your partner.

  • Don’t forget why you love your partner: It’s easy to be caught up in a lot of other things as the relationship progresses. However, to avoid losing touch of what matters the most, always make it a point to reminisce your feelings and attraction toward your partner. What is it that made you chose and love this person? Whether a lot of things have changed or not, don’t forget who you fell in love with.

Remember, love is like a plant that grows with time. It’s not something you find everyday and just develops by itself.  It is dynamic – it changes, it grows, and most of all you need to nurture it so that it lasts.

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