I Really Want My Ex Back! What should i do?
“If I want my ex back, what should I do?” There are a lot of things that easily comes to mind. But the problem is that they are not always the right course of action when it comes to winning your ex back. It’s easy to do things on instinct only to find out later on that it was a big mistake.
If you want your ex back, it’s better to be careful and avoid common mistakes which are deadly. One wrong move can cost you the slightest chance you may still have at getting back together. So, if learning from your own mistake doesn’t give you an advantage in this aspect, it’s best to learn from the mistakes of others and avoid them at all cost.
I Want My Ex Back! – Avoiding the Common Mistakes
The following are the most common mistakes you need to avoid if you still want your ex back:
Arguing with your ex: Other people argue about the reason for the break up or that it’s not the right thing their ex decided to do. But getting into a conflict or argument with your ex will certainly not help you win him or her back. It can probably be one of his or her reasons for breaking up with you in the first place. The best thing you can do is to tell your ex that you understand his or her decision and agree to a break up. A respectful break up can open the door for a more friendly interaction and a chance to get your ex back.
Acting Desperate: You need to stop needy behaviors such as begging for forgiveness, saying you cannot live without him or her, or buying your ex gifts. These all make you appear needy and desperate which kills attraction. Although in romantic movies these things seem to work, in real life they actually don’t. If there’s anything you need to keep to win your ex back, it is your dignity and self-respect.
Isolating yourself: Don’t lock yourself up in your room away from your friends and other people. You may feel like it especially when you’re depressed. But it will only make you more depressed living in seclusion. Do the opposite instead. Socialize and find diversionary activities. You will become more attractive to your ex if he or she sees you not acting miserable. Having that good aura when you go out can definitely help you win your ex back.
Making contact too often: If you think your ex doesn’t know yet how much he or she means to you that’s why you keep on calling, you’re absolutely mistaken. Frequent visits, phone calls, emails, and messages won’t make your ex change his or her mind now. You are only annoying your ex if you keep on pestering him or her. So, it’s time you follow the “no contact rule” which plays on the person’s curiosity. If you stop contacting your ex, he or she will become curious and may even be the one contacting you instead. Especially because time apart can make your ex miss you.
Making your ex jealous: You might be considering it by now, but don’t even bother pushing through with such a plan. In the long run, it won’t help you at all and could even backfire at you. Yes, you may succeed at making your ex jealous, but you might regret the consequences. Your ex may decide to move on already when she sees you’re moving on with someone else. Or she might give you a dose of your own medicine and play your jealousy game too.
Trying to win your ex back too fast: Be careful not to jump at the first sign that your ex may still be interested in you. It is simply not a good idea to profess your undying love and devotion the first time you communicate again. If you want your ex back, you need to be patient and take it one step at a time. Your ex might need more space for awhile. So, increase your chances at winning her back by giving him or her just that.
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