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3 Psychological Effects Of Cheating In A Relationship

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If you find yourself thinking "I want to cheat!" (or are already cheating on your spouse), one thing you need to think about carefully is the ripple effect it will have on your spouses life when you get found out.

What is the ripple effect?

The ripple effect is the effect your infidelity can cause to your spouses life as a whole ways that may not be immediately obvious right now.

You see, victims of infidelity will usually look at his or her work, friends, and other life choices in a different way following the affair. The affair isn’t just something that damages your relationship, its something that damages the core of the person who is being cheated on.

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In what way does it damage the core of who they are?

When an affair comes to light, the person can have the following parts of their life changed (and sometimes forever):

  1. Trust Issues: It will be difficult for your spouse to trust you again. Trust is an integral part in marriage. Once broken, it is difficult to mend the pieces back the way they were before. Even if your marriage ends and he or she enters into another relationship, he or she may also continue to have trust issues. So the damage continues on long after you have been gone.

  2. Roller Coaster of Emotions: Your spouse will go through emotional turmoil. He or she may feel like crying now, and then feel angry afterwards. Your spouse may blame you today, and then blame himself or herself tomorrow. This is a normal reaction to marital infidelity. However, if these emotions are not managed correctly, it can lead to serious problems for your spouse and ultimately to your marriage.

  3. Damage to Self-Esteem: Your spouse will start questioning his or her self-worth and have thoughts of “Where did I go wrong?” or “What’s wrong with me?” Like children of divorcees blaming themselves for what happened to their parents, victims of marital infidelity often respond to cheating by blaming themselves too.


That the effects may last for the rest of the persons life. So even if you feel you no longer love your partner, can you honestly say that you would want to cause pain to them that would stay with them for the remainder of their life? I don’t think so. Remember: Short term pain = long term pleasure. Short term pleasure = long term pain.

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