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8 Reasons Why Dating A Married Man Is A Bad Deal For A Woman

Dating a married man never has a positive outcome. Even what seem like good reasons such as:

  • You make each other happy
  • You're in love,
  • It's exciting

in time will reveal themselves to be negative reasons. Why? Because their intensity won't last and you'll have caused so much destruction in their pursuit.

If you're still not convinced, I have put together 8 of the top reasons why dating a married man is not a good idea.

Reasons Against Dating A Married Man

  1. Dating a married man and being made a fool of: He may reassure you that he loves you, that you're better then his wife and points out what a good time you're having together etc but in reality - he's still with his spouse! Words are easier than actions and when push comes to shove the majority of married men want to stay with the stability of married life as the alternative means lots of things change and not necessarily for the better. He may lose his house, easy access to his children, part of his wages to alimony etc.

  2. There's no future with a married man: When a man is in an unhappy marriage, he can feel over awed by the experience of "dating" someone new. These intense emotions can make him say things like he loves you more than he ever did his wife etc. You may take this as a commitment of some sort to their being a future between you both. However in reality he is just saying that to make sure he keeps you by his side and has you to compensate for his unhappy marriage.

  3. Cheating men run when there’s trouble: The fact that he is cheating because of his unhappy marriage tells you something about his core character - he runs from difficult situations. If you and him have relationship problems down the line, he will have a high likelihood of running again. In addition, he's more likely to run from a new relationship than his marriage. This is because in his new relationship, the woman has already essentially accepted that he's a cheater and given the green light on such behavior.

  4. Hiding is damaging: When dating a married man, going around to different towns and cites and meeting up in hotels will seem exciting. This in itself can be a motivating factor by both parties to keep it going. However this thrill will in time fade and when it does he may decide you're no longer exciting enough for him and he dumps you. In addition, from your point of view, hiding things will damage your self confidence. You won't get to enjoy the benefits of a full relationship like walking down the street together or going out for drinks with friends at the weekend.

  5. Trust and dating a married man: If you've both got together by him cheating and you helping him, trust can never be formed between you both. In addition, you've both already essentially told each other that cheating is ok in some circumstances. So if he ever cheats on you he has the easy option of just blaming you and saying that you should have known he was a cheater.

  6. He's getting a better deal than you: When dating a married man, its important to know most of the benefits lie on his side while you get the rawer deal. He gets the benefit of a genuine relationship (his marriage) and can go out with his spouse and hang out with friends together. At the same time you are providing some of the sexual services that his wife doesn't want to do anymore. In time, most women dating a married man find themselves resenting the advantages the guy has.

  7. He holds the power: The fact is that if you disrespect him or treat him badly, it'll be very easy for him to leave you because he has his wives arms to run straight into. You on the other hand have no immediate option available to you, making you that bit more dependent on him. You may think you have power over him because you could just tell his wife everything, but in reality if there's children involved you probably won't want to do it for their sake.

  8. Time is ticking: As you've got older I’m sure you've noticed that the years have gone by quicker. Dating a married man can last for years. Therefore, you don't want to find yourself in another couple of years time single again and having to look for someone new. I'm sure you'd like any relationship you enter now to be a long lasting one. If you don't look for a healthier relationship now, you may rue it in a couple of years time when you and this guy finally go your separate ways.

    In addition, in time you're looks might start letting you down and being able to get a good man may not be as easy as it is now. You should take hold of the opportunity now, while you're at your strongest and most capable of finding a healthy and rewarding relationship.

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