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4 Negative Ways Of Communication In Relationships You Should Avoid

When it comes down to it, the level of communication in relationships determines the strength and length of the companionship between a couple. In essence, a relationship ends when communication ends. Thus, expect things to turn sour if you and your partner have been having problems in relating with each other.

So what must a person do in order to avoid mishaps in his or her communication and relationship? The answer is that he or she should remember to refrain or get rid of the following negative attitudes:

  1. Disparaging: Never ever belittle your partner. You're the last person that he or she will expect to receive criticism from. Also, do not always put the blame on your partner or try to find reasons to put him or her at fault.

  2. Self-justifying: Don’t always try to justify yourself and make it appear that you are always right. Remember that every one makes mistakes and you are no exception. So be ready to admit your faults and swallow your pride.

  3. Bias: Don’t always try to make things work in your favour. It’s never good to use anger to get your way or convince your partner to do something that you want.

  4. Ignoring: Don’t make your partner feel bad and taken for granted by disregarding anything he or she says. There will be times in your relationship when you'll have arguments. And don't try to avoid them by not responding to what your partner is saying. Instead, compose yourself, pacify his or her anger, then talk things over.

What else can I do to build a strong relationship communication?

The following are positive ways to build a healthy relationship communication:

  1. Openness about problems: When challenges come your way or if things are bothering you, see to it that you discuss them and find solutions. Never be reluctant to express what you feel. Instead, always be honest with each other.

  2. Talk about anything: Some couples seem to run out of things to talk about the longer they are together. So try and keep things interesting with topics about anything: friends, family, politics, movies, books, basically just anything you can think of. Keep your everyday conversations alive.

  3. Be clear about what you say: It's not enough that you say what's on your mind. Be sure that your partner understands what you are trying to tell him or her by being specific. This is a good way to avoid misunderstandings and miscommunications.

  4. Do not hesitate to ask: Asking questions means that you are interested in what's going on in your partner's mind and that you are taking into consideration what he or she has to say.

Effective communication in relationships is not so difficult to achieve if you and your partner work together and put your minds into it. By practicing an open interaction with each other early in the beginning of your relationship, you’ll be paving the way to develop a healthy and long-lasting bond.

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