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How To Enhance Marriage Communication - By Embracing Conflict

Despite what you see in the movies, conflict is an unavoidable part of all marriages – even relatively healthy ones. All that any couple could really ever hope for is to maintain healthy channels of communication so that no amount of conflict could ever become big enough to wreak havoc on the marriage.

One very effective way to enhance marriage communication is to actually embrace conflict instead of avoiding it and allowing it to become a bigger issue. If you choose to ignore a perceived conflict and simply pretend that it doesn’t exist, it could continue to build under the surface up to the point where it becomes a real threat on your marriage.

5 Point Plan To Embracing Conflict

  1. Get Rid of Distractions: If you plan to enhance communication between yourself and your spouse, you should get rid of any distractions that might take your attention away from each other. Turn off the television set, set your phones on silent mode and put your computer on sleep mode or turn it off completely if it’s practical for you. Spend time to be able to sit down next to each other and talk about your problems in a quiet, comfortable room with as little distractions as possible.

  2. Stop Harboring Secrets: Keeping your feelings bottled up never does anyone any good. It might encourage the same secretive behaviour from your spouse. Furthermore, when you can’t hold it in anymore, it could result in an explosive outburst that forever destroys your marriage. Even small secrets could be detrimental to your marriage so it’s a good idea to take time to open up to each other if you’re holding something back.

  3. Listen: Whenever your partner has something to say to you about a perceived conflict, if it’s practical, you should drop whatever you are currently doing and take time to listen to him/her. This will show your partner that you value his/her input and help to foster more effective communication between the two of you.

  4. Plan Ahead: Once you detect a possible source of conflict, plan ahead to talk it out seriously with your partner. Never allow a problem to remain unresolved for too long. A serious conversation needs to be undertaken as soon as possible, but make sure that you are prepared for it.

  5. Seek Help: Having acknowledged the conflict rather than ignoring it’s existence, two things are going to happen. Now that you have it out in the open, you are either going to be able to deal with it as a couple and fix it …or you’re not. If you’re not, consider seeking the help of a trained counsellor that can bring the two of your together and analyse your conflict, what’s causing it and the best route to fixing it.

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