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How To Improve Confidence - By Challenging Your Belief System

There are several methods advocated by so-called experts or “gurus” on the subject of improving self-confidence. While most of these methods are a hit or miss, the truth is that they are often not quite as effective as they could be because they do not directly address what actually determines how much confidence or lack thereof that you have in yourself, your belief system. In short, in order to directly improve you self-confidence, you should challenge your belief system.

Remember that a belief is just a self-fulfilling prophecy, a thought that you have come to accept as reality – not reality itself. The belief system that you now hold was shaped by a number of different things including:

  • Your experiences,

  • Your reflections on those experiences,

  • The decisions that you have made due to those experiences,

  • And subsequent or supervening events which support your decisions.

All of these things combine together in order to create your current belief system. For a human being, the only real truth is the perceived truth. This is why people rarely challenge their existing beliefs systems …and consequently never gain the kind of confidence they are truly capable of.

So how can I challenge my belief system if it’s damaging my confidence?

In order to challenge your current belief system so as to improve your self confidence, you need to find ways to make yourself doubt the perceived truth behind a particular belief and to find corresponding support for these doubts. Here’s how it can be done:

  1. First of all, what was the first thing that led you to this belief? For example, if you lack confidence in your looks, was it based on a passing comment made by someone in the past?

  2. Next, try to think of a particular instance that would cast doubt on that belief. Are there any exceptions to this belief? The guy at the checkout counter at my local shop often smiles at me. In fact, other people often smile at me too. Maybe they like me and my looks?

  3. Going even further, you want to reduce this belief into something that is absolutely ridiculous or preposterous. I feel good when I go out. I like the way I look and the way this makes me feel. Maybe that person from my past said I wasn’t good looking because they wanted to see if they could bring me down so as to compensate for self esteem issues they have.

As you think about the answers to these questions about the belief you want to change, you need to be able to take the reasons that you come up with seriously in order for your mind to accept the “challenges” that you are making upon a particular belief so that you can cast the negative belief aside and improve your confidence in yourself.

Remember that your belief system might actually need some updating. Some of these beliefs were probably made back when you were still a child of tender age. As a fully-grown adult, it is important to reflect on these beliefs, especially the ones that affect your self confidence and to challenge them to see how much they still hold true.