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How To Get a Guy Back - By Being Subtle About Things

Most girls are unsure what to do on how to get a guy back. They wonder should they pursue him and keep asking him to come back, or should they make him jealous.

Some even consider acting desperate and lonely in the hope of making him feel sorry for them and taking pity on them. This is not the way to go.

Perhaps your friends are telling you not to chase your ex. Well, let me tell you that you can still go after your ex in a subtle way. He, your friends and the other people around you wouldn't even notice that you are actually going after him if you do it correctly. From a psychological point of view, this is the most effective way of getting a guy back.

Get a guy back by doing the opposite of what he expects

Psychology will play a major role in your journey towards conquering back your ex. This means that you have to get out of his sight and get into his mind. He'll be expecting you to do or react the way you used to, but you'll be doing otherwise. To be more elaborate, do the following:

  1. Cut-off any form of communication with your ex: I know this step isn’t easy for you but you have to do it AT ALL COSTS. Do not try to get him talk to you. Do not even call, email or IM him. Make him wonder what you've been up to and why he hasn't heard from you.

  2. Do not “accidentally” bump into him: Doing so might make him think you're trying to follow him wherever he goes. You'd only look desperate and possibly push him further away from you. So avoid going to places where he usually hangs out.

  3. Take care and improve your physical appearance: This will convince your ex that you are doing just fine and that you are ready to attract other guys since you are now single and available (of course, this is what you'd like him to believe). If he finds out how great you look right now and how other guys find you alluring, it’ll put him thinking. You know how guys are. They want what other guys want.

  4. Think about what you want to do and just do it! Take advantage of the situation you are in. You're single (at least until you get your ex back) so you have all the time in the world to live your life. Go out with your friends and spend time with your family. Learn a new skill or pursue a new hobby. Keep yourself busy and be productive. Let your ex believe that your life will go on even without him and he'll be forced to admire how strong you've become.

  5. Give you and your ex space: Learn to admit that you need to be apart from each other to be able to rethink about the break up, whether it was a good idea or not. You need time to reflect about the relationship and the mistakes you’ve both made. This will also be an opportunity for him to miss you and realize how lonesome life is without you.

  6. Communicate at the right time: Do not speak to your ex too soon or too late. Contacting your ex immediately after the break up will make you prone to committing more mistakes because you are still very emotional and upset about the break up. On the other hand, he might come to believe that you have already moved on if you take too long before talking to him. If you know that the timing is right, ask him if he could have coffee with you. If he agrees to meet up with you, never bring up the subject of getting back together. Just stay calm and let him bring up the matter.

Remember, when getting a guy back...

It is very important to follow these steps exactly. Any deviation or side plans of your own might adversely affect your chances of success.

Remember to practice self-control, patience and courage. Be strong and determined and in time you'll be with him again. If he doesn't come back, then it's time for you to move on.

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