Can i really "make" my ex boyfriend fall in love with me? ...and get him back?
Wondering how to get him back?
And make things like they were before all this happened?
Here's what you need to know...
Trying to get a guy back is easier than you think. Most people think of love as a totally random thing that can’t be controlled. Thinking this will not help you get him back. The reality is actually that love can be manipulated.
(NOTE: To discover how to program your guys mind into becoming emotionally tied to you and prevent him from looking at other girls, check out my book "".)
Both the emotions of love and hate are intertwined and both are capable of being controlled and manipulated. If you know the logic of the workings of the mind, then you’ll be well prepared in being able to get him back and make him love you.
In trying to get him back, you must realise that the emotion of love is like any of the other psychological emotions that humans experience. Just like psychologists and doctors can offer methods for treating stress for example, so too are there answers to making your ex love you and get him back.
You must learn the psychology tactics necessary for making a person love you. These wont work 100% for every person but I assure you it will drastically improve your likelihood in being able to get him back.
Key points on how to get him back
If you want to know how to get him back, these points MUST be followed. These are derived from deep rooted psychological working of a persons mind and applying them correctly and in full will aid you in being able to get him back.
- Meet his lovemaps components: Everyone has in their mind a list of things that a potential partner must be like. They wont consider another person as a potential partner unless they satisfy this list of components. If a person doesn’t meet a certain amount of the components on this list, they wont be considered as a potential partner.
Components a guy might have for a potential girlfriend may include for example that she must be intelligent or she must not be a non-smoker. To get him back, you must see if you are violating any of his components. Get to know his background and values and see if there is something there that is stopping him from loving you.
- Keep approaching him or ignore him? This is a key question many people ask when they are trying to get an ex back and its amazing how many websites out there offer a "single solve all" answer to it. In reality there’s no one answer to this. In depends on whether the other person is externally dependent or not. By this I mean do they require outside influences to make them happy or can they be content on their own.
If a person is externally dependant they require someone or something to make them happy. In this case, chasing him trying to get him back would in a large percentage of cases, work successfully. Externally dependent people fall in love easier because they need to have another person around to keep them happy. If your ex is not externally dependant however, constantly chasing him is more likely to result in pushing him away further. You will need to assess this for yourself and see which class he falls into.
- Be positively associated: When someone says your name, you want them to associate your name with a strong word such as "confident" "leader" etc and not a negative one such as "loser" Try and associate yourself with strong personality traits instead of weaker ones. This will make it easier to get your ex back. I go through this in detail in my book " "
Manipulate his subconscious mind: Your subconscious mind accepts a certain idea as a result of something being constantly repeated to it. To program your exs mind and get him back - you must include you in it. You shouldn't chase him, but rather try and be in eyesight a lot and within distance of him. Let him see you around. You don’t have to talk to him but both of you can be out with friends together – whatever is right for your situation.
In my book "" I show how effective this technique is. I show how you can reverse this programming that your ex and the relationship had on you. Its very powerful and proper understanding of it can aid you in even opposite types of situations.
- Have what he needs: When people look for a potential partner, in essence they look for someone that’s similar to their own positive traits but who is different from any negative traits they have. For example a sporty girl with low self-confidence will be attracted to a sporty male but he will have to have high self-confidence to make up for her lack of it.
In trying to get your ex back, think of things he doesn't like about himself and make sure you are the opposite to those negative features. Likewise, try to be similar to those traits that you know he does like about himself. This will send a subliminal message to his subconscious mind, saying that you are what he needs. This is crucial factor in being able to get him back.