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My problem is the reasons she gave me for the breakup just don't make sense!

To get her back, it’s crucial you understand why she broke up with you in the first place. Now she may have given you reasons for the break up. Some may be logical, some illogical, but at the end of the day they were only excuses to get rid of you. The fundamental reason she’s gone is because she lost hope in you as being a potential life partner.

Women break up with men not for another man, but for another life. Most men get so lost in the reasons their woman gave them for breaking up that they can't grasp this deep, real cause of the break up.

So how can this help get her back?

If you tried reasoning with your ex to get her back, you would have reasoned with her based on the excuses she gave you for the break up and not on the real deep reason. This is why trying to logically argue the break up with the person that dumped you almost never works. Its like you're both speaking different languages.

Yes, you can try to dispel any reasons she gave you for the break up but that won't change her real reason for leaving you or get her back. It may be that:

  • Things got boring

  • You’re both different people

  • She met someone new

  • You grew apart

  • Conversation got boring

  • You cheated

  • You both fight too much etc

The list goes on. These reasons may or may not be true but they only serve to cover over what's really going on in her mind. She basically lost hope in you of being her night in shining armor, someone that she could live her life with and respect. She broke up with you because you no longer satisfied the list in her mind of the things that her potential partner should satisfy.

In my book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology" I go through in detail this list that people have in their subconscious. I show how to get her back by passing it and making her fall in love with you. If you don't pass it, you are effectively barred by that persons subconscious from her ever loving you.

Ok, I understand, so how do I get her back?

Although she can believe the reasons she gives you for the break up, the fact is her subconscious has spotted something in you it didn't like and this caused her to want out of the relationship. The superficial reasons amounted up to the realization that she lost hope in you. She doesn't love you means she lost the hope in you that she had once held.

The good news is that you were probably the cause of her losing hope. This is good because it means that it’s in your control to re-ignite that hope and get her back. If even you can give her the hope that she might get her hope back, this would be a starting point.

If you can begin to get her to see you're worth trying for one more time, then you will be back in with a chance. But it can't be a half-hearted effort. In essence to get her back, it’s your character she needs to see a change in and not just superficial changes like a new car or haircut.

I go through this in detail in my book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology". It contains a detailed plan of what you should, but more importantly, what you shouldn't do to get her back. I've given a few samples of these throughout this website for starters if you can't afford the book. The more you do to improve the fabric of your character, the greater the reality that you will get her back.

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