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Are there any exceptions to the "no-contact-rule" when trying to get an ex back?

How to make someone fall in love with you

A lot of people are boggled with the idea of the "no-contact-rule" mainly because they do not want to lose communication with their ex. But the fact is that not having any form of communication with your ex creates distance between the two of you.

With you out of the picture, he or she will begin to see things differently. You’re no longer there to comfort him/her and they’ll begin to see the void you’ve left in their life.

This will allow your ex to think of you and, since you haven't been calling, wonder what you've been up to. This curiousity is enough to cause a longing in them for you and cause them to want to get in touch with you.

Are there any exceptions to using NCR?

I go through NCR in my book “THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology” and the instances where you might be unsure if to use it. Two exceptions to the no contact rule however include:

  1. Forget about NCR only when your ex is the first to contact you: You wouldn't want to appear mad and snobbish to someone you want back in your life. It is okay to answer his or her calls, texts, IMs or emails. But avoid showing too much warmth and excitement. You’re replies should be short. Don’t ask them any questions and this will in effect cut the conversation. Play a little hard-to-get. Just don't overdo it because people get tired and your ex might think that you're still mad or that you have already moved on.

  2. It's okay to send a text message only if there is an emergency: Say for example if something terrible happened or if there is a special occasion. He or she is your ex, not your enemy. If you want to the person back in your life, show your concern. After all, you shared good and bad moments together. He or she will feel bad if it's his or her birthday and you didn't even bother to send a birthday greeting. Or if you've heard that a relative or a pet died and you didn't even send your condolences. Be thoughtful and your ex will be touched that you remembered.

Final Thought On Getting Back With An Ex

You need to sacrifice in order for this method to work. What will you be sacrificing? It's seeing your ex or hearing his or her voice. You must resist from picking up your phone and making that call or sending that SMS.

You have to be strong so that you wouldn't easily give in to temptation. Lastly, you need to be patient because NCR will take some time before its effects are manifested, usually about 3 weeks. It is simple and hard at the same time but it's worth it in the end.

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