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How To Get Back With Your Ex - By Increasing Your Perceived Attractiveness

How to make someone fall in love with you

In wondering how to get back with your ex you're probably wondering what can you do to make yourself more attractive. To get back with your ex, you'll be glad to know that plastic surgery or extreme makeovers are not necessary :-) nor are they recommended.

(NOTE: To discover how to win back your ex BEFORE they start dating someone new, check out my book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology".)

Most people think that a persons attractiveness is a set thing. In reality it’s dynamic. It continuously changes depending on a wide variety of factors. It doesn't depend on just looks but is also heavily influenced by:

  • Attitude
  • Mindset
  • Actions
  • And behaviour.

To get back with your ex, you'll need to examine these areas in relation to yourself.

Studies have found that people change their mind on someones attractiveness without having changes happen to that persons physical appearance. Their mind can change based on factors unrelated to their physical appearance. You can utilise this behaviour to get back with your ex.

“But I don’t think I’m good looking enough!”

You do not have to become depressed if you feel you’re not good looking. Attractiveness can increase considerably based on other factors. However, likewise peoples perception of your attractiveness can go down based on these other factors too.

Lets take the situation that you were dumped. To get back with your ex, you need to find out was there something in your behaviour that caused your ex to lose interest in you. If a guy loved a girl, but over the course of the relationship she started cheating or trying to make him jealous constantly, he would stop loving her eventually because these things caused him to find her less attractive.

"So what do I need to do to get back with my ex?"

To get back with your ex you basically need to manually change your attractiveness. If you know what caused your ex to lose interest in you, then this needs to be at the top of your list. But in addition there are generic things you can do to increase your attractiveness. These apply to any relationship.

In my book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology" I go through how you can make someone psychologically think you are more attractive. To get back with your ex you should be doing as many of these as possible. If you cant afford the book, I have included a few examples here as a starter:

  • The law of the crowd: Research has revealed that if people in general find you attractive, then your ex will be programmed into thinking your attractive also. If friends like hanging out with you then it stands to reason that you must be cool. If you have left your social life dwindle as a result of having a boyfriend, then get back out there now on the social scene and have a good time with friends again. To get back with your ex, you need to show that people like hanging out with you.

  • Change your physical appearance: Only joking :-) You don’t really have to change your physical appearance, however there are things you can do to make yourself seem more physical attractive without being drastic. Doing this to a degree will help you get back with your ex. Standing and sitting with a straight back will make you look more confident and therefore more attractive to your exs subconscious mind. Smiling more will make you seem more attractive too. Smiling at people will cause them to smile back at you. A person smiling at you enforces the law of the crowd. 

  • Self-confidence: Confidence is crucial to help you get back with your ex. People that appear self-confident and know where they're going in life are perceived as being more attractive. Notice I said, "appear self confident". It’s not necessary to actually be self confident but just to appear to be, if this is all you can manage. I deal with self-confidence in this website and I strongly recommend dealing with any self esteem issues as a means of dealing with a problem.

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