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How To Get Your Ex Back - By Examining The Logic Of Love

Most people believe that the emotion of love is a random process determined by fate and which cannot be controlled. If you think this and your ex dumped you, you will think it's impossible to get your ex back because you'll think you can do nothing about it. Thankfully, there are things you can do to get your ex back.

In reality, it's your subconscious that makes you fall for someone, not fate. Therefore if you examine the logic of why your ex's subconscious will love one person and reject another, you'll be in control of being able to get your ex back and make them love you. Just like there are techniques for controlling other emotions such as:

  • Stress
  • Anger
  • Anxiety etc

So too can love be controlled. The problem is that people have become so programmed by TV and the media about love being some magical force based on destiny, that we can find it hard to understand that we actually have the ability to control love.

Get Your Ex Back By Controlling Love

To get your ex back and make them love you, you will need to follow some of the methods I have set out here:

  1. Should you keep trying to get your ex back? No you shouldn't. In my book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology" I go through the step by step process that you will need to take to get your ex back after a break up. It involves breaking off all communication with them for a set period of time and using this time to evaluate their subconscious so you can programme it to love you.
  2. Provide them with what they need: When someone looks for a potential partner, their subconscious is essentially looking for someone that has similar good characteristics to their own ones while not having the same bad characteristics that they have that they don't like.

    An example of this is a confident but poor girl will naturally be attracted to someone that’s also confident but that has money to compensate for her lack of it. Now the guy wouldn't necessarily HAVE to have money but rather show the characteristic of ambition because ambition can lead to wealth.

    I go through this in my book and show how if a person can't provide a characteristic their ex wouldn’t like, they can display a substitute one in its place that will be just as acceptable to his/her exs subconscious.

  3. Matching their lovemap: To get your ex back, you will need to examine your ex's lovemap. A persons lovemap is a list of the things he/she would need in a potential life partner. The reason this is important is because you must have already passed this persons lovemap since you went out with them. However, then something happened that caused you to be no longer compatible with it. Hence - you were dumped.

    Lets say that your ex really wants children but you displayed in the last few months of the relationship that you didn't like children. In such a situation, this could have caused their subconscious to realise that you were no longer a match for them and so caused your ex to fall out of love with you. To get your ex back, you will need to find out what changed and then remedy the situation accordingly.

Get Your Ex Back Even If They're Seeing Someone Else

If they've started seeing someone else you might be worried that the above advice is useless. That is not the case. When people get into relationships straight after being in one, it’s almost always done as a means of making themselves feel better about the previous break up.

This is why rebound relationships have such a high failure rate. This is the case for both the "dumpee" and the "dumper" for want of better terms. If however, you were able to pinpoint the exact reason why they broke up with you, you could take immediate action to remedy the situation.

However, the most important thing you can do to get your ex back is to not make things worse. Its important to be aware of the exact things you shouldn't do because these will prevent you from being able to get your ex back even if the above advices are taken. In my book, I go through exactly what not to do in detail. On some occasions, knowing these alone is sufficient to get your ex back.

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