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How To Get Your Ex Back Fast - By Denying Them Validation

Want to know how to get your ex back fast?

If you want to get back your ex, it’s important to know why some people fail at getting an ex back so you don’t make their same mistakes. This is a logical piece of advice, and one that can save you the heartache of never being in the arms of the one you love again.

So what mistakes do people make after a breakup? Well there’s a popular old saying that: “ desperate times call for desperate measures” This is most probably the reason why someone would actually beg his or her ex to come back. And the problem with begging is that is comes from an area of:

  • Neediness

  • Worthlessness

  • Desperation

These 3 qualities are not attractive so if you show them to your ex right now, you’re only likely to drive them further away. Not only will they be turned off by it, but it will also cause their subconscious to think that they were right for breaking up with a loser like that. It’s like you’re validating their decision to dump you.

Your Reaction Now Is Key To Getting Back Your Ex

When any person dumps their partner, they immediately analyse their partners’ reaction. This can happen both on a subconscious or a conscious level. They look to see how you react and if you react in a pathetic needy fashion by begging them to come back – this validates their decision to dump you.

So if you act in a strong fashion and don’t let yourself be broken by the breakup – you are in effect denying this validation and forcing them to question the wiseness of deciding to dump you. In my book “THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology” I show exactly how you need to behave after a breakup so that your ex’s subconscious is denied this validation and thus can’t move on without you.

When you deny validation, it’s like you throw up a roadblock in their mind and causes them to question if they were right in breaking up with you. This confusion is key to letting you get back your ex.

How exactly can I deny validation and get my ex back?

Your first step is to avoid doing the exact things, which would give them validation for dumping you. These include doing the following:

  • Reasoning out with your ex

  • Over apologizing to him or her

  • Saying that you're going to change

  • Or promise that things will better if he or she comes back to you.

In addition, don't even try to use jealousy or blackmail your ex to make him or her return. Things don't work that way. Jealousy is a dangerous tactic. However, it has to be said that when used correctly it can work wonders.

I show in my book exactly how to use jealousy to get an ex back, but I don’t recommend going down the jealousy route unless you’ve first read my book. Most people don’t know how to use it properly and consequently often make things permanently worse by trying to be smart with it.

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