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How To Win Your Ex Back - By Using The Power Of Absence To Your Advantage

How to make someone fall in love with you

If you want to win your ex back, your first course of action should be to avoid the common mistakes people make that only drive their ex farther away. From my experience of getting people back together, there’s a good chance that the way you are acting right now is driving your ex away.

(NOTE: To discover how to win your ex back before they start dating someone new, check out my book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology".)

The reality is that most people do more harm than good in the way they act after the break up. So, how should one act after a break up? You need to give your ex time and space.

What do these two things achieve?

They give your ex the chance to miss being with you and having a boyfriend or girlfriend. They also give you a chance to properly analyze what went wrong and consequently fix the reason(s) why your partner no longer considered you to be a potential partner.

So my ex misses me?

You were in a relationship together and now you're not. This inevitably means they must miss you. The degree to which they miss you will vary from relationship to relationship but the one thing you must realize is that right now your ex does indeed miss you.

Now if you're smart, you will use this to your advantage. You should take this as a seed and water it so that it grows into a fully grown tree. The way to do this, is to keep out of your exs life so that the way their are feeling right now (ie the little bit of them that misses you) can grow and grow.

Believe it or not, absence does make the heart grow fonder. This is perhaps your strongest asset right now so don’t waste it. Haven’t you noticed that not hearing from someone makes us curious about what he or she’s up to? You can use this trick to your advantage. Give him or her a chance to miss you, even just a little bit. You will do yourself a big favor doing this.

So i just need to stay out of their life right now?

For starters ...YES. Now, it may seem counter productive to just not do anything at all. But trust me - not trying to win your ex back is more effective than bugging your ex to come back to you.

And if you think about it, this is pretty much the easiest thing to do than all those other strategies you may have thought of doing. How ironic it is? By not talking to your ex, you are paving the way for you to talk and get back together.

Yes, as strange as it may sound, this is one of the tested strategy to win your ex back. But to ensure success, you have to do a bit more; particularly in the way you re-approach your ex after being out of their lives for a while (and what you do in the meantime). This and more I go through in detail in my book “THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology

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