My problem is my ex keeps popping into my mind!
Having difficulty getting over a broken heart?
And feel like the thoughts of them will never leave you?
You may be genuinely trying to prevent yourself thinking about a certain individual and forgetting about them but suddenly something throws them back into your mind. It could be anything from:
A song you know they like,
Passing by a museum you both visited once,
Or seeing an advert on the TV that you both had laughed at when you were together etc etc
You then end up thinking about them for the next hour or two or possibly longer ...agonizing your broken heart even more.
Yes, this is how I feel!
The thing about the mind is that the thoughts running through it are random, with no set sequence of order. So how can we control them? It seems like a catch 22 situation, doesn’t it? - We have a thinking process, which is random, but we need to control it so as to stop thinking of that individual and get over them. So how can you try to forget a person without thinking about them in the first place?
The reality is that you have 2 choices when a thought of your ex pops into your mind. You can either:
Nudge the thoughts away
Or you can feed them
Unfortunately, people have a tendency of feeding them (by playfully daydreaming about themselves back together with their ex again) ...and so makes these thoughts stronger in the process. This makes getting over a broken heart MUCH more difficult. They can also do it by looking at old messages their ex sent to them on their phone or by checking out their profile on facebook etc.
What you need to do is NUDGE these thoughts away
Yes, you wont be able to avoid thinking about that person every now and again while doing this. This is ok, just nudge these thoughts away and carry on doing what you were doing.
If you feel you don't have the self-discipline to resist these fleeting thoughts, then I cover a behavioral therapy technique in my book “get over your broken heart much quicker than you ever thought possible.” …that will allow even the weakest of minds to remove fleeting thoughts of their ex from their mind. This allows you to
Remember, what I’ve gone through in this article also works in reverse ...i.e. the more you remember and give in, the more you will keep doing it as it becomes the norm for you. This is how people can get stuck remembering (and consequently missing) an ex even years after the breakup has occurred.
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