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How To Get Over Losing The Love Of Your Life Who Was Your Whole World

I lost the love of my life!
The love of my life left me!
They were literally my whole world!

Want to know how to get over someone, especially if your ex was EVERYTHING to you? Well, they say loving someone is like investing in the stock market. If you invest all of your money in it and lost, how would you feel? It would feel awful because you will have nothing left.

In the same way, investing your emotions and becoming emotionally dependent on your partner during the relationship can definitely break you. Completely depending on your partner to feel good would really make it difficult for you to do so once you lose the person.

Dependence is what makes surviving a breakup so difficult?

Although breakups are of course a case-to-case basis, there are some common things people do while in the relationship which makes recovering very difficult after a breakup. Being emotionally dependent is one of the reasons why a lot of people find difficulty in quickly recovering from a breakup.

The following are things you might have been doing while in the relationship which eventually led you to become too emotionally dependent on your partner leading you to believe they were the love of your life ...when in reality you just became too dependent on them:

  1. Dropping your hobbies and other interests: Being with someone can make some forget their other interests which make them happy too. They tend to forgo old hobbies and concentrate their entire time around their partner. Eventually, these people will become dependent on their partner only to feel good. Losing their partner will then surely mean a loss of happiness.

  2. Contacting your friends less often: Whether intentionally or unintentionally, most couples get too caught up with each other and make the mistake of weakening their connection to their friends. This makes you solely depend on your partner for your social and intimacy needs, which is very unhealthy. Losing your partner would then consequently make you feel all alone.

  3. Making your world revolve only around your partner: People have become extremely dependent on their partner emotionally that they focus only on their partner and stop doing anything useful for themselves. These people who make their partners the center of their lives are also the same people who will suffer the most after a breakup.

You need to refrain from making your life, happiness, and everything that you have depend on a partner. Remember, a healthy relationship should allow you to grow and expand your horizons, not make your world smaller and secluded.

So what should i do?

Upon knowing what makes it difficult to quickly recover from losing the love of your life, you should tackle these things right now to reduce the dependence you are feeling for your ex (and therefore indirectly reduce the pain you are feeling).

This is only a small part of the story however. In my book “THE ERASE CODE: How To Get Over Anyone In Less Than A Week Using Psychology” I go through the full set of reasons that make people feel bad after a breakup. I then show how to dispel each one of these so that you can recover quickly.

This is because the elements that cause breakup pain have very little to do with your ex or "love" for them (approx <5%) but instead have to do with other issues ...such as fears, worries, insecurities and of course dependence which we've just talked about. In other words - they were NOT the love of your life.

It’s important to understand this because these are all elements which are within your control to tackle and solve ...rather than thinking your pain is because of "love" which would make you think the whole situation is outside of your control and therefore make you feel helpless.

Need more help on how to survive a breakup?

Yes, what is the "contrast effect" and how can it help mend a broken heart?

How can I deal with a broken heart by re-examining  my current mentality?

How can the "kubler-ross model" help me get over a break up?

How can I get my ex-boyfriend back by examining his past?

How do I get my ex back by using positive emotions?


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