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How To Use The Pain Of A Breakup To Your Advantage

Want to know how to deal with heartbreak?
And turn the horrible situation you currently find yourself in ...to your advantage?

Here'a a story you might want to consider...

One day a farmer's donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out a way to get him out. Finally he decided it was probably impossible and the animal was old and the well was dry anyway, so it just wasn't worth it to try and retrieve the donkey. So the farmer asked his neighbors to come over and help him cover up the well. They all grabbed shovels and began to shovel dirt into the well.

At first, when the donkey realized what was happening he cried horribly. Then, to everyone's amazement, he quieted down and let out some happy brays. A few shovel loads later, the farmer looked down the well to see what was happening and was astonished at what he saw. With every shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was shaking it off and taking a step up.

As the farmer's neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he continued to shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, to everyone's amazement, the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and trotted off!

What does this have to do with dealing with heartbreak?

The reality is that life is going to shovel dirt on you. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Every adversity can be turned into a stepping stone. The way to get out of the deepest well is by never giving up but by shaking yourself off and taking a step up. What happens to you isn't nearly as important as how you react to it.

Use your current pain as a motivation sling shot to examine areas of your life that need improving. Maybe during your relationship with this person you neglected areas of your life such as hobbies, relationship with friends, your appearance, your fitness etc. Use the pain you are feeling right now as motivation to tackle these areas of your life because it might be that these areas of your life (or rather the lack of them) caused your ex to dump you …and could potentially cause you to get dumped again in the future if you don’t tackle them right now.

When we think of pain, we generally think of it as a negative. But just like the donkey could have thought of the dirt as a negative too (i.e. his impending doom), you need to look at what’s being thrown at you right now and use it to your advantage. Because every disadvantage has a corresponding advantage …if you’re smart enough to look for it.

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