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I don't think I will ever get over my ex even in 2 or 3 years time

Will I ever get over my ex?
Even in 2,3,4 or 5 years time?
I feel like I won't be able to!

For most people, getting over a relationship seems like an uphill task that is going to take weeks, months and possibly even years. And while it’s true that for some people this will be the case, what most people don’t realise is that such drawn out pain is completely avoidable.

Firstly, you must first ask yourself the following before you can start your healing process:

  • How old was I when I started dating my ex?
  • How long did our relationship last?

Let's say you were 21 when you started dating and you've been steady for 4 years, until one or both of you finally decided to call it quits.

What's the logic behind these questions?

It's simple. I want you to realize that you were able to live on your own, WITHOUT your ex, for 21 years of your life. You've only been together for 4 years, not even close to half of how old you were before you got together.

In my book "THE ERASE CODE: How To Get Over Anyone In Less Than A Week Using Psychology" I talk about how people make themselves depressed using catastrophic self talk such "If i'm going to feel this broken hearted for the next 20 years, i might as well be dead" ...but this is irrational thinking.

You see, your subconscious can only compute what it sees in front of it. It has no concept of the past or future ...but only the present. It can’t predict how you will feel in the future as it doesn’t understand the future so it takes the feelings you are feeling right now in the present (which are the worst they will ever be because you’ve just been broken up with) and automatically assumes this is how you will feel about the breakup in the future.

It is only able to use the way you are feeling right now as a reference to determine how you will feel in the future and so makes you think right now that you will be broken hearted forever. But the pain you are feeling right now, doesn’t last like this. It’s simply a trick your subconscious mind is playing on you …and one you must be aware of.

Need more help on getting over a relationship?

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