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How To Deal With Jealousy By Cutting It’s Roots

In trying to deal with jealousy, it’s useful to think of jealousy as the branches of a tree. Jealousy is only the branches and not the roots. So if you want to get rid of your jealousy, you need to cut the roots. When you do, the branches will die and can't grow back. So what are the roots of jealousy and how can you cut them?

  1. Be assertive: If someone is making or causing you to feel jealous, speak your mind on the situation. If your partner is deliberately trying to make you jealous, ask them why they are doing this. Being assertive and not letting things go will stop letting jealousy grow and flourish. Be assertive but not angry. Anger is a sign of jealousy while assertiveness is the trait of a strong personality.

  2. Overcome your fears: Are there things that you feel are holding you back in life? Maybe you have been dumped in the past and worrying that this will happen again causes you to be jealous of your partners friends and social circle. Examine what caused your ex to leave you and see how you can avoid making any mistakes again, if you did make mistakes that is.

  3. Work on building self-belief: You need to work on creating a strong mentality and believing in yourself. This is an important factor in being able to deal with jealousy. Why? Well its insecurities that cause you to become jealous in the first place so building self-belief will destroy these insecurities.

  4. Change your physical and mental image of yourself: If you don't go out anymore with your social circle of friends, make efforts to get back out there. Often being on your own can skew your self-image causing jealousy in another part of your life. Building self-image ties in with building self-confidence. It will not only improve your life but also helps destroy a main source of jealousy.

  5. Examining your insecurities: What things in life are you insecure about? If you're insecure about your work, try and examine this area of your life and see what can be done to remedy the situation. If you are insecure about your looks, work on improving yourself. Get your hair-styled or get a new wardrobe.

Why you need to deal with jealousy now

The problem with jealousy is that it drives people away rather then bringing them towards you. If you want to keep your partner, you must actively work on destroying the roots of your jealousy. When someone is jealous, they have a tendency to interfere too much in their partners life to a degree where it is unwelcome.

In the book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology" I go through step by step the positive traits you can work on to make a person fall in love with you. Jealousy comes from a frame of mind of neediness and insecurity. That’s why if you want to make someone like you, you need to deal with jealousy.

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