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Is free marriage counseling on the internet any good?

Not always. Obtaining free marriage counseling via the Internet can be fraught with danger if you don't know what you're doing.

Unfortunately, there are many free marriage counseling websites on the internet that are nothing more than agony aunts giving their opinion on relationship problems without having any real substance to their words and teachings. The free marriage counseling advice on however, is at the top of what the Internet has to offer.

All advice has been written by myself – Ali Clark. I have extensive study in psychology and have helped thousands of couples find solutions to their problems. The free marriage counseling advice I give isn't based on general relationship knowledge that everyone knows, but rather is based on solid scientific and psychological principals not known to the general public.

It's Not Always Their Fault!

It's difficult to give good free marriage counseling advice in the confines of one article. For more detailed free marriage counseling advice, visit the articles at the bottom of this page. In them you will find a sample of the information available in my book "THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology".

For the purposes of this article, I’d like to examine your behavior in the marriage. You might be saying "but it's all their fault! I’m the good one!" but the reality is, that even if your partner creates the problems, your reactory behavior may be adding to them. So I first want to examine you.

  1. Analyze your behavior: Do you criticize them too much? Do you start arguments or keep them going? Your behavior towards your partner may explain their behavior towards you. Very often a partner will mirror back the treatment their partner gives them. 

  2. Listen to your partner: Often when people are having arguments, they tell things as they really are. If something is bothering them, they'll often let the other partner know. If however, you don't listen to your partner because you're more interested in winning the argument, you could be missing an important opportunity to get to the root cause of your marital problems. Instead of trying to shout over them, try and get them to give you as much information as possible.

  3. Be caring: People have a deep desire to love and be loved. If a person feels they're in a relationship and just being taken for granted, they'll start to pull away emotionally. Make your other half feel loved and see how they respond. Spoil them occasionally. Have someone mind the children while you go away for a night or two. This will help program their subconscious into realizing that you do care about them and that the relationship is a worthwhile investment.

Establish YOUR Role ...Whatever That Has Been

If your behavior has been adding to the marital problems, then changing as per the 3 points above would help things significantly. However, I’m not saying that you're the cause of the problems. What I am saying is that your role in things must be established one way or another.

This is your first step in getting to the root cause of the relationship problems. The first response to any marriage difficulty should be to take responsibility for your own role and work on fixing that first. Read through the following articles for more free marriage counseling advice.

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