Skip to main content

You are in the: How To Save My Marriage article section     

The Truth About Happy Marriage Relationships

Want to know how to have a successful marriage?
But not sure how that can be achieved?

The truth is that even the so-called “happy marriages” have their share of imperfections. Often one or both partners have thought about giving up on the relationship at one point in the marriage. And as today’s statistics show all too well, many couples choose not to complete the journey.

A recent survey revealed a shocking 72% of women have considered leaving their husbands at some point. But the good news is that most of them still expected to be with their husbands.

How can I increase my chances of having a happy marriage?

Happiness is a personal choice. If you choose to be happy in the relationship then you will be happy. However it’s the failure of one of both parties to find happiness in the relationship that causes it to fail.

So how do you make it to the finish line with your marriage relationship intact? Here are some useful tips to keep:

  • Make specific agreements and maintain them: You and your spouse will have disagreements at some point. Learn to compromise and keep the agreements made. This helps build respect and trust with your partner and create a feeling of security in your marriage.

  • Learn from your partner: There are certain qualities of your partner that you may like or you find very beneficial to your relationship. You can always learn them for yourself and apply them too to the relationship. It will strengthen the marriage when both are able to contribute good things to it.

  • Always tell the truth if you want true love: In any relationship, trust is very important. No matter how good your motive may be for lying, it doesn’t change the fact that you lied to your spouse. In the long run, you’ll find out that lying only generates mistrust. And this is something that can shake even the strongest of marriages.

  • Learn to forgive and forget: Sometimes, we find it easier to forgive than to forget. However, if you don’t forget past mistakes, it will take control of your present and eventually your future. If you keep on bringing the past up in your conversations, it will only ignite conflicts.

  • Define expectations: Be as clear as you can be in defining your expectations within the relationship. Set realistic expectations. High expectations often lead to frustration and disappointment. So take it slow and one step at a time.

  • Take responsibility for your actions: Never decide and do something if you’re not ready to face the consequence. If you’re wrong, admit that you are. Or if you made a mistake, make sure to apologize for it.

  • Respect your partner the way you want to be respected: Respect begets respect so be respectful of your spouse in your words and in your actions.

  • Make the effort to spend quality time together: Intimacy starts to fade when less time is committed for each other. And lack of intimacy is the common reason for marital infidelity.

  • Laughter is the best medicine: Marriage relationships should not be seen as an entirely serious thing. Laugh once in a while. Laughter can see you through so many things in life. Finding humour together in day-to-day things makes it easier to break down the barriers and tensions.

Healthy marriage relationships are not built overnight. Don’t neglect to nurture your relationship and value your spouse. It’s easy to forget this with the day-to-day pressures of work, children, or household tasks. But making the effort will be worth it in the long run.

Want more info on how to have a successful marriage?

Yes, what are some surprising statistics regarding the sleeping patterns of married couples?

How do husbands and wives differ in their problem-solving approaches?

What are the strengths and weaknesses of marriage guidance?

How can I make a relationship last beyond the initial spark?

Why are most relationships actually normal?