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What does your partners sleeping position say about your marriage?

The husband and wife relationship in the marriage bed is a big part of any marriage. It has the effect of creating many of the arguments you get between couples.

This is particularly the case if the partners have different sleeping personas such as one being able to fall asleep easily while the other can't. Areas that can cause conflict include:

  • Tossing and moving around all night

  • Teeth grinding

  • Snoring etc

But while these are relatively easy problems to deal with, some aspects of the marriage bed do give rise to concern by some people. One such aspect is the position you sleep together in bed.

Interpreting Your Partners Sleeping Position

Some people get concerned about the position their partner takes when sleeping. The biggest area that gives rise to concern is if their partner sleeps with their back facing them.

The reality is, that most people just prefer this position, as they don't want to be in someone’s face when sleeping. "Spooning" or sleeping cuddled together with one partner facing the others back is actually recommended by experts, as it's believed to relieve stress and increase intimacy.

The reason for this is probably related to the fact that this is just the way people feel most comfortable when sleeping with someone.

Separate marriage beds?

The opposite of the marriage bed can seem like sleeping separately. The reality is however, that if you’re having issues trying to get a good nights sleep because of your partner, it's a logical and good idea to get twin beds or sleep in separate rooms.

You shouldn't worry or think that it's a sign you're drifting apart or that it could cause you to drift apart. The truth is that a lot of couples after 5 or 10 years of marriage decide that it's just more convenient to sleep apart. One partner keeps the double bed and when both feel like sleeping together for a night now and then - the marriage bed comes back into effect.

As strange as it sounds, sleeping in separate beds can actually save a marriage if areas of conflict in the marriage are arising from sleeping issues they are having together. When it comes to issues in the marriage bed, let common sense prevail and not what you think "should be the case".

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