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4 Ways To Increase Your Circle Of Friends ...To Deal With Loneliness

Most people will want to know how to deal with loneliness at some point in our lives. The reason being is that loneliness doesn’t strike only:

  • The poor
  • Unattractive
  • Or unpopular people etc

This is because loneliness doesn’t depend on social status or family life. Loneliness instead depends on a feeling of connection. And this lack of feeling of connection can happen regardless of whether you have people in your life or not.

But wouldn’t having lots of people in your life cure loneliness?

Not necessarily. The reason we can feel disconnected even if we have many people in our life is if those relationships are of a superficial nature ...and don’t satisfy our emotional needs. It’s better to have one really close friend than to have a 100 superficial friends whom you never really feel connected to.

If you want to develop this feeling of connection in order to deal with your loneliness, consider the following points:

  1. Communicate With Old Relationships: Sometimes, it’s our oldest friends that we look back on and think we were most connected with them. Consider scanning your address book or remember your old friends, acquaintances, classmates, or co-workers. Arrange for a get together or a lunch date. Rekindle old bonds.

  2. Nurture Current Relationships: Sometimes people aren’t comfortable opening up to people if they feel that those people don’t open up to them. So consider opening up private areas of your life to acquaintances you meet on a regular basis. You might be surprised at how quickly they respond with the same and potential connection can be created. 

  3. Find People With Common Interests: You can enroll in a cooking class, sign up for dance lessons, or register for ecologist movement club. Or if you like playing chess, you can join a chess club. If you have a dog, you may also enroll it at obedience school and meet other dog owners there. Using common interests is one of the best springboards to making new friends and developing genuine connections.

  4. Do Volunteer Work: Volunteer work in a great way of developing strong bonds with people because you’re often dealing with people who are in need of assistance in some shape or form much in the same way that you are in need of assistance with your loneliness. Not only will you have an opportunity to develop connections with these people but also with your co-volunteers. You can volunteer in nursing homes for the elderly or sick people, or in projects like building homes for the less fortunate people.

And Remember…

Never underestimate how lonely other people can be feeling too. You might think that the whole world is one big party and that you’re not invited …but the reality is that there is a huge portion of society in the same boat as you are.

There are people out there who would want to get to know you and be around you! And you don’t need to be a born extrovert to make friends and let the sunshine in your life. Just make yourself more appealing and go out of your way to introduce yourself or show interest in other people.