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How To Make Someone Want You …By Placing Them In A State Of Confusion

If you want to know how to make someone want you, you first need to understand how the subconscious mind works. This is because in this article I am going to show you how to get the one you want by programming their subconscious mind …in a very particular manner.

First, I want to show you two basic points about the subconscious mind:

  1. The Subconscious Dislikes Unfinished Business: Have you ever sat down for a cosy night in with a good movie and just as the movie got started you suddenly realized there is a potato chip on the floor by the TV? What’s your immediate reaction? Do you continue watching the movie or does the fact that there is a potato chip by the TV niggle away at you until you eventually decide to get up and pick it up? Most people would say the latter. The subconscious mind is always trying to make things neat and tidy. It doesn’t like unfinished business. 
  2. The Subconscious Is Programmed Through Repetition: Have you ever heard the phrase “The girl next door”? It’s a phrase often used by guys who have come to fancy the girl that lives very close by. This is because the more a potential partner is in our immediate vicinity (and we see them a lot) the more we are forced to think about them. And the more we begin to think about a person, the more accustomed we become to them. The more accustomed we become to a potential partner …the more we begin to like them (Check out my article: How To Use The "Mere Exposure Effect" To Make Someone Like You). 

The above two concepts are hard-wired into every persons subconscious. And if you know what you’re doing, you can use these two concepts to your advantage to not only make someone want you …but to make them fall in love with you

Placing The Person In A State Of Confusion

A clever way to combine the above two principals (when trying to make someone want you) is to place the person in a state of confusion. Here’s how…

You want to become the "potato chip" in this persons mind. You want to force the person to keep thinking about you. However, unlike the potato chip, he can’t just pick you up (which would allow him to stop thinking of you) but instead he is forced to continually think of you. 

And when you have someone continually thinking of you, just like “The girl next door” your chances of being programmed on the person mind to the point where they begin to like you …INCREASES significanlty. 

Let’s now look at a practical way of implementing this…

How To Make Someone Want You More

A very simple way of placing someone in a state of confusion might be to be nice to them some days while remaining distant other days. This causes the person to wonder if you like them or not.

By contradicting your own behaviour like this, the more the person will become confused about you. And the more confused they become about you …the more they will be thinking about you. It almost doesn’t matter WHY they are thinking about you. All that’s important is that they ARE thinking of you. 

The subconscious mind is programmed through repetition remember. And you want the persons mind to be programmed on YOU.

Of course, peoples situations with the particular person they want will vary greatly …so the above example will not be suitable to every situation. This is why in my book “THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology” I go through a number of different ways to make someone keep thinking about you …and how to do this regardless if your specific person is an ex, a guy you like, a girl you like or even a spouse who has become distant from you.