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Should I consider going on a dating site to meet someone new?

As long as your going online to meet someone new, rather than using it as a mechanism to forget an ex or something like that, then i think it's something that's definitely worth a try.

In my book "THE ERASE CODE: How To Get Over Anyone In Less Than A Week Using Psychology", I talk about the importance of only implementing approach coping mechanisms in order to permanently remove an ex from your mind.

If you're thinking of using a dating site as a way to forget about an ex, this is what is know in psychology circles as an avoidance coping mechanism ...and is something that will only have short term benefits in helping you get over your ex and not provide a permanent solution to removing your ex from your mind.

So if you're planning on going on a dating site for the right reason (ie to meet someone new, rather than trying to get over an ex), then in this article, i'd like to go through some of the ups and downs you can expect if you decide to go down this route in finding a new partner.

The Pros Of Internet Relationships

  • Online sites offer more possibilities than you would be likely to encounter in everyday life.

  • Dating profiles give you a good idea of what a person is like before you meet them. You can see their interests, their profession, what they want in a partner etc. This is probably one of the key benefits of online relationships

  • Being rejected or fear of rejection is greatly reduced because you may never meet the individual that turns you down, face to face. If someone turns down your offer of a date, you can just move onto the profile.

  • Dating sites allow you in interact with people who are looking for the same thing as you are. You both share this common ground of wanting a relationship and being pro-active about finding one.

The Cons Of Online Relationships

  • On most sites, men outnumber women. This is a negative for men as the competition is greater. It may also be a problem for women because it may indicate that a high percentage of men are looking for sexual relations rather than a full relationship.

  • Some sites, usually the free ones, are plagued by people who join just for fun. These people often have no intention of meeting people or engaging in online relationships.

  • Because of the anonymous nature of dating sites, you can't be completely sure if someone is representing themselves truthfully on their profile. They may make up things so as to appear more appealing to any prospective partner. This is probably the biggest problem of online relationships.

  • Prostitutes have on occasion used dating sites to get business from lonely single men. Scams have also been encountered trying to collect peoples email address's and or trying to get people to send them money.

  • Some people looking for online relationships may not necessarily be single but put forth the impression that they are. They may be married or going through a divorce.

Whats your opinion, Richard?

There might have been a time when going online to meet someone new had a big of a stigma attached to it, but the idea of online relationships and dating is becoming much more acceptable to the general public nowadays.

As long as you're doing it for the right reasons, it's definitely worth a go.

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