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What kind of premarital counseling questions could the counselor throw at me?

Couples who are planning to take their relationship to the next level should be ready to answer a number of premarital counseling questions.

For serious takers, you need to answer these premarital questions and ask yourself if you are really ready to say I do, for better or for worse. You need to understand that some questions may give you second thoughts on settling down.

Some of the questions may demand answers that are deal breakers. If you and your soon to be spouse will not be able to agree on fundamental and core value issues, then you need to give marriage a possible re-consideration.

Unless one is willing to compromise, having different fundamental and core values will entail a marriage that is going to fail.

The 9 Main Areas Of Premarital Counseling Questions

Fundamental Core Value Issues

  1. What spiritual beliefs do you practice?
  2. How important are your spiritual beliefs to you?
  3. Do you have a deep commitment in practicing your beliefs?
  4. What do you think of marriage?
  5. How would you consider marriage: a contract or a covenant?
  6. What makes you angry?
  7. Are you willing to go counseling with your spouse should any problem arise in your marriage?

Previous Relationships

  1. How many serious relationships have you had?
  2. Were they sexual relationships?
  3. What have you learned about yourself from your previous relationships?
  4. Is there any emotional baggage you are carrying from your previous relationships to the one you have at present?

Marriage roles

  1. Who will take leadership in your marriage?
  2. What kind of leadership will this be?
  3. Are you willing to surrender yourselves fully to each other as husband and wife?


  1. What financial obligations have you had in the past and what are you keeping in the present?
  2. Are you a spender or a saver?
  3. How much are you going to earn together?
  4. What financial goals are you going to set?
  5. How are you going to manage your finances?
  6. How will you decide on your finances together?


  1. Where will you stay?
  2. How will you divide household chores?
  3. Who will prepare the meals?


  1. What do you expect about sex in marriage?
  2. Are you willing to explore new things about sex together?
  3. Have you ever had sex?


  1. Are your parents okay with your marriage plans?
  2. How frequent are you going to visit each other’s families?
  3. How frequent will you allow your families to come visit you?
  4. How can you protect your marriage while still honoring your parents?


  1. Are you willing to have children?
  2. When will you have children?
  3. How many children do you want to have?
  4. What kind of parents will you be?
  5. How were your growing up experiences like?
  6. How do you define good parenting?


  1. How do you handle disagreements?
  2. Does conflict make you mad?
  3. What are you not willing to give up for marriage?
  4. What are your fears in marriage?
  5. What is something that you would like to change in your partner?

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