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3 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Get Married

Should I get married?
How do I know if i'm making the correct choice?

Its natural to find yourself wondering if your marriage will succeed or fail when you are thinking of or about to get married. So how would you know if your reason for getting married is the right one?

Love is the usual answer when you ask couples why they want to get married. However, love alone is not enough. The reality is that a healthy marriage depends on many factors like maturity level, financial readiness, and so on.

In addition, the age at which you get married plays a role in the likely success of the marriage. Statistically, marriages seem to be much more stable when they begin in the mid-twenties and divorce rates are lowest for men and women who marry at age 28 or later.

To avoid a marriage ending up in divorce you need to wait until you have personally developed your identity and life goals. The vital question really is if you’re both ready to get married.

How do I know if I am personally developed?

Before you decide to get married, ask yourselves these three most important questions to help you decide:

  1. Are we compatible? Can we remain compatible and adapt to changes? The line “I hope you’ll never change” or “I like you just the way you are” is simply unrealistic. Remember that the only constant thing in the world is change, so expect changes but learn to adjust to one another.

  2. Do I trust my partner? If there is the slightest doubt in either of your mind, then there is no trust. Relationships feed on trust and cannot survive without it.

  3. Do we have good communication? Communication is very important in marriage as difficulties in communication can destroy a relationship. Research has shown communication problems to be one of the leading reasons for divorce.

You and your partner should answer these questions honestly. And if you both answered to each one’s satisfaction, then getting married is a good idea for you.

Having compatibility, trust, and communication in your relationship are the main ingredients for companionship. If one of these factors is missing, then getting married is not a good idea at all.

Wrong Reasons to Get Married

There are a lot of wrong reasons to get married – reasons that often result to separation or divorce. Among them are the following:

  • Getting married due to love at first sight

  • Sexual attraction/lust

  • Fear of being alone or to cure loneliness

  • As an act of rebellion

  • Out of obligation/pressure

  • Pregnancy

  • For financial gain

Most likely, marriages based on these reasons will not prosper. For some people, one of these reasons may seem good enough. But these are selfish reasons and are recipes for a disaster.

Marriage is about commitment between two people and should never be taken lightly. So if you do decide to get married, make sure you are marrying for the right reasons and not the wrong ones.



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