How To Solve Life Problems
I bet you have experienced this common problem:
Whenever you manage to solve one of life’s problems …another one comes along to take its place.
For example, you might be trying to fix-up and paint your house in order to make it look nice. Then, when you have it looking perfect …you realize the front garden looks shabby in comparison to the house. So you then have to fix up the garden.
Then, when you fix up the garden, you realize the front gate is getting old and looks shabby in comparison to the house and front garden. And so you have to get someone to make a new gate. Then you realize all these things are only the outside of the house …and you haven’t even begun to tackle the inside yet!
I know this particular set of problems only too well. I’ve just gone through them with my house myself!
This begs the question, why do we find new problems as soon as we solve old problems? The answer comes down to the way the mind works and how it frames problems.
How The Mind Sorts Through Problems
Problems often appear in the mind in the form of a pile. The most important and pressing problems are placed on the top of the pile while less important or urgent problems are placed near the bottom.
The least urgent or important problems fall lowest on the pile and so you are hardly aware of them while more important problems still remain. This explains why it seems that a new problem arises immediately after you deal with one.
The reality is that that other problem was there all along!
Now, this is not always the case (ie sometimes a new problem is indeed a new problem), but this happens far more than you might realize. In the example of my house above, the problems with the front gate and the garden were always there. But because the problem with the paintwork of the house was the most pressing …this is the one that stuck in my mind initially and I didn’t even realize the other problems were there.
In order to solve life’s problems effectively you must persist and focus on working through problem after problem rather than just the ones most immediately apparent.
How Unsolved Problems Cause Unhappiness
For many people the number one cause of their unhappiness is that they have a large pile of unaddressed problems that they have not dealt with.
As your mood changes throughout the day your mind is constantly scanning this pile of problems and determining if they are being resolved. If you have many unresolved problems then your mind will remain uneasy.
- Play a sport with friends
- Go to the movie theatre
- Or watch a comedy on TV
…but your ability to enjoy these things will be diminished as your mind will continually circle back to these unresolved problems.
This is not to say that it is impossible to feel happiness when you have unresolved problems but that the larger your share of unresolved problems is the more your potential happiness is limited.
Here’s What You Need To Do…
There is good news. You don’t need to resolve each and every problem in your life to feel happy. You can start feeling better simply by putting an action plan in place for you to follow.
Here’s how this works in practical terms…
If you have three major problems in your life and you set a plan to deal with them …then just the act of having started will help you to begin feeling much better. Once you simply begin work on the first one, you will feel better even about the other ones which you haven’t started on yet.
The unease and bad moods that your mind creates around these problems are meant to serve as motivation.
So, rather than avoiding the problems, the best way to address this stress is to take action. Once action has been taken you will find your mood and potential happiness have begun to improve.