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Are rebound relationships any good for psychologically getting over an ex?

In my book “THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology” I show how people fall in love when they meet someone who matches their “lovemap”. This is basically a list of things which resides on our subconscious of the things each of us wants in a future partner.

Everyones lovemap is unique to that person because it is based on their own:

  • Values and beliefs
  • Past experiences
  • Dreams and aspirations
  • Fears and worries
  • And family background etc

In my book I show how to analyze a persons subconscious so that you can find out how their specific lovemap works and then use this knowledge to make the person fall for you.

What does this have to do with rebound relationships?

In short – everything. You see, you can only ever fall in love with someone if they match your lovemap. This is why people often date a few people before they fall in love with one of those people. They can’t fall in love with everyone they date, they only fall in love with someone who matches their lovemap.

The things about rebound relationships is that they are, by their nature, relationships that are entered into very quickly. The problem here is that they find themselves in this new relationship with someone who usually (because of the hastiness of getting with someone so quick) isn't a good match for their lovemap.

What’s worse, is that because this new partner doesn’t match your lovemap specifications as good as your ex did, it’s likely to cause you to miss your ex EVEN MORE because this new person won’t be able to make you feel the same way your ex did. They actually make your ex seem even better than they really are because you’re subconscious will see that you are going out with someone new but still thinking of your old ex!

So what should I do?

If you've just broken up with your partner, the best thing to do is to leave a bit of time pass before getting involved with anyone new again.

If by chance you have someone new in mind whom you do like, then of course it’s ok to start going out with them. But if you go out with someone new now “just to have someone” by your side, then it’s likely to make your pain right now even worse.

You should only start a relationship after your breakup if you have true feelings for that other person and are not just trying to make yourself feel better by having someone (i.e. anyone) by your side.

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