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How To Stop Being Shy - By Letting Go Of The Perfection Trap

In this article, you will learn all about what is known as the “perfection trap” and how to learn to let go of it in order to overcome your shyness.

First of all, just what exactly is the perfection trap? Simply put, it is an attitude where you seek perfection from yourself to the point of feeling insecure when you cannot live up to your own expectations of yourself.

In short, you expect everything to always be just right about yourself …and if it isn’t, you feel frozen and unable to take action. If you feel too shy to approach a person that you really like because you feel that you do not measure up to him/her, then this is a sure sign that you have been caught up in the perfection trap.

How can I overcome the perfection trap?

It’s not really possible to overcome the perfection trap overnight. Instead it is a gradual process of healing and self-improvement. The process of letting go should be approached systematically. Here are a few guidelines to aid you:

  1. Identify the cause of your shyness

  2. Set some small self-improvement goals that you can actually achieve

  3. Use a rewards system for your little triumphs

  4. Stop drawing comparisons between yourself and other people

  5. Understand and list your own strengths and weaknesses

By learning to let go of the perfection trap, you will come to understand your own strengths and weaknesses and gain the self-confidence to overcome your shyness.


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