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What do cheating men think about when cheating?

If you're like most women and don't cheat on your boyfriend, you're probably curious to know what goes on inside the head of cheating men.

Whilst cheating can take place in many forms, for the purpose of this article I’m defining cheating men as men sleeping with another woman other than their girlfriends.

Essentially, the minds of cheating men are coming from a place of dishonesty. So their thought process revolves around the area of deception in both how to do it and how not be found out.

Thought processes of cheating men

Cheating men will logically try and work out if they can be caught or not. They ask themselves questions like:

  • Can my girlfriend and lover cross paths?
  • Do they live in the same area or live close together?
  • Is there any place in common that they both hang out at?

Often cheating men will cheat simply because they want sex with someone new on a regular basis. At the same time they want to enjoy the benefit of companionship that a regular girlfriend will bring. As a result they will try and do the least amount possible with their new lover, as they only want them for sex. They'll be thinking things like:

  • Must I call the new girl often?
  • How often will she want to hang out?
  • How long before she'll be expecting to meet my friends and family?

Cheating men also will invariably be trying to estimate your level or intelligence to see if they can cheat on you without you knowing. They'll try and access:

  • If you're the type of person that's fooled easily?
  • Do you believe most things people say to you?
  • Are you the kind of person that'd be willing to take a person back if they cheated on you?

Cheating men – Conclusion to be made…

From the above, you can see that the minds of cheating men come from a completely different place from love. Cheating men don't care about the people they hurt. They only think about themselves. I write this because when a person finds out their partner has cheated on them, they tend to focus on the cheating itself and the person their partner cheated with.

The thought processes of the cheater and its indifference to the manufacture of a healthy relationship is often overlooked. If you examine the above mindset of cheating men, you can see it’s not the kind that can ever truly be trusted.

If your boyfriend has cheated on you, examine the above mental layout of cheating men and ask yourself if you truly want to be with a person like that.

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